I'm a 23 years old guy who owns a dog and some months ago I met a neighbour who also had a dog. So we started going on walks together and became really good friends. One day her daughter came in (she lived in another city at the time) and we all three walked together, and I immediately caught interest for her.
The weeks went and she came in a few more times, then I hear from her mom that she is moving to our city. So I told her I'm willing to help with the moving, so I helped her to carry alot of stuff into the apartment and I also offered myself to help her clean her old apartment but never got a real answer on that.
Anyway, when she finally settled in this city she added me on facebook and we started talk more and more. We took long and cozy walks with our dogs, we ate icecream on cafe's, took roadtrips with our dogs and photographed them (we both love nature, photography and animals among other things) and we've also shopped together.
As you can see she showed a lot of interest (it was mostly her ideas to meet) but as time went on and I also sometimes asked if we would take a walk or whatever, she always denied me and had something else to do. She felt tired (I know she got some sort of decease and her mom says she likes to be alone alot. Fine.), she was going to the gym and the list can go on. So it felt like she was backing off and I had no idea what to do. Lately we have talked with each other but not as much as we used to.
She tipped me on some movie she wanted to see some weeks ago, so I said maybe I can download it. Maybe a week ago or so I took up that question again and asked her "what was the movie you wanted to see?" and she answered. Then I said "maybe we can plan a movie night together some weekend?" and she answered "maybe so" or "perhaps", I'm not sure which one is in the correct form. I was not sure what she meant because it felt a little unsecure from her side, maybe I was pushing it too much?
I want to add that she has been seeing a 20 years older guy who's a bodybuilder and her mom says he's more like a dad for her but I feel she want to get something going there. Maybe a week ago or so she was talking to this guy and he wasn't answering, so she went by his house and there he was sitting with his ex (who he hated according to this girl's mom, and he wanted to kill her with a electrical gun) in the garden. And when he saw this girl walking by he didn't even say hello. This crushed this girl totally and she was upset a whole week. Then she started talking to me a bit again after I was laying low and not showing any interest for her. So this whole thing feels like we can only meet when she feels like it, or when she got no other guy to see.
What kind of behaviour is this and how do I deal with it? Sorry for the ramble, I suck really hard at expressing myself in text. Hope you understand!