His job is slow right now, and is asking me to pay 1/2 for the hotel. He also said once that his ex sees the credit card statement when he reserves the room. Is asking me to reserve the room sometimes.
Tell him you want to meet in his town next time and for him to arrange for the hotel. Tell him while you're there, you'd like to meet his ex or at least talk to her on the phone. See what he has to say about that. I suggest you ask to speak to her about just how "separated" they are because there is every indication that this man is not even divorced/separated or estranged from his wife and is still very much involved with her as his life partner.
You don't even know this man or how he acts outside of your sexual hookups. Protect yourself and find out everything you can about why he is still so very much a part of his wife's life and her his life.
I think you're his friend with benefits. You are falling for a man based on sex weekends in a hotel. What? I know you won't just give him up so at the very least you should know if he's still married and just getting some on the side. If he's actually not still part of a marriage he'll have no trouble with you calling him at home or speaking with his EX wife.
What's wrong with the men in your own home town/city? At least you get to see them for more than a romp in a cheap hotel.
Last edited by Wakeup; 13-06-11 at 05:06 AM.
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