making the first move

[nobody]

Not sure if this thread is already out there, so sorry.

Anyways, I want to know why is it the guy's job to be the one who makes the first move onto a girl. When a girl could easly just go up to a guy and make the move on him. Why is it like this?

[misombra]

because guys are the ones with balls.

lol jk.

[updraft]

Well I dont think necessarily think its a "guy's job" to make the first move, b/c I know alot of women who initiate things...but I guess alot of guys feel the pressure from other guys maybe?

[misombra]

nah, i think it's an age thing.

[Ellynn]

Personally I think both should make a move. But honestly I must say I never really initiate anything...... Im a chicken sh*t. Plus at least if the guy makes the first move then at least I know hes interested for sure.

[Blazin Trav]

Doesn't matter to me. Girls just drop me hints like "i'm really into relationships" or "I could consider a relationship with you" and then it's smooth sailing from there. Honestly if they aren't mature enough to communicate, it's a lot harder.

[Only-virgins]

Plus at least if the guy makes the first move then at least I know hes interested for sure.

This is why I want the girl to talk to me.

"I could consider a relationship with you"

Yea, I think thats a hint. She is being very vague and un clear though lol. Actually if a girl says that above she IS making the first move.

[Mish]

Girls are scared mostly or reluctant of doing chasing... As well as chasing with the thought that the target maybe not be interested, thus their efforts are in vain... The feminine perspective prefers approach by the other, which gives an opportunity to them for making a choice. Initiation comes second, while for Guys intiation ussually comes first...

Guys are ussually not as sensitive as women and therefore don't care that much about chasing as long as they're certain about the quality of their catch. Plus, you must look at how the subculture and raising methods differ between men and women. Men for example are generaly brought up to be hunter gatherer like providers, with emphasis on self esteem building, importance of physical and other types of strength, winning and personal goal achievement above all else...

Having said that, plenty of girls make first moves as well, these are just not as common as guys...

[Junsui]

I made the first move with my bf. I think what Mish said answers your question as to why it's usually the guy.

[misombra]

i made the first move with my bf too. i think as girls get older they get better at figuring out what they want in a boyfriend. or girlfriend (nothing wrong with that.) and they're more confident. so bang it all goes together to make up a brave, bold woman.

[boobaa]

If there is a rule, I use to ignore it.

[Junsui]

i made the first move with my bf too. i think as girls get older they get better at figuring out what they want in a boyfriend. or girlfriend (nothing wrong with that.) and they're more confident. so bang it all goes together to make up a brave, bold woman.

I agree. Once you know what you want, why wait around for it?