hi All,
This is my first post, so please bear with me:-)
My bf of 2 yrs blewed up at family dinner, leaving me a big decision to make-dump him or stay. I need all your honest advices to help me think clear.
Last Saturday night, I cooked dinner for him. Supposedly, it was just dinner for two of us. My Dad had a fight with his wife and stopped by my house. I invited him to join us for dinner. Well, things went ok (not great because my bf could never carry a good conversation with my father) until my Dad asked my bf about "the future". My bf obviously thought it was rude of my dad to ask him about "the future" and acted out his anger in the rudest manner I couldn't imagine a 27 y/o man would act toward his gf's father. He showed no respect to my father infront of me and no respect to me infront of my father. His shorted answers, mad facial expressions, tone of voice, all those great stuffs were out of my imagination. And so, I asked him to come in the bedroom to talk. I tried to be calmed but he wasn't, given that he's the person at fault. When we went to the bedroom to talk and my father was still eating outside, my bf was still in his rudest attitute toward me and yelled at me with all the curse words, on top of calling my Father a bastard and that he has no respect for him because of the way my he left my mom (my mom past away before I even dated my bf), blah blah blah. To my bf, my father does not deserve his respect, so he showed no respect whatsoever. We fought a lot that night in the bedroom while my dad was eating outside. All this time I tried to calm down but he was being awfully immature and rude. When my dad left that night, he was so sad and clearly said to me that he does not want to see me dating an immature person like my bf.
My bf was raised up wrong. I think his parents spoiled him and didn't teach him the beauty of respecting other people. Therefore, he does not know how to treat people with respects and don't really give a cr*p about anyone. I wanted to break up with him right that night-but being a softie that didn't work out when my bf started crying. I know that my bf loves me and cares for me. I don't think anyone knows him better than I do and I know that it will hurt him greatly if I really leave, especially after this incident. He apologized to me and realized that he blewed up. I've requested that he apolgize to my dad and he is willing to do that sometimes in the future, but not at this moment because he's still mad (as stated by my bf).
Right now, I really don't know what to do. I'm torn but I still care for my bf. But what he did was unacceptable and hurtful. I wanted to just forget about him and let him grow up on his own. But at the same time I feel that he needs my help and guidance to grow up (since no one really care to pinpoint out his flaws but me). But I'm miserable in this relationship bc of his immaturity and his hot temper (bad bad combination). So, please, help me think clearly. Should I give him a 2nd chance?
Thank you in advance for all your advices.