Hi there
Do you remember my latest posts where I sort of brag about how I've finally met somebody and blablabla...
Well things did not work out the way I wished them to. I had met that fantastic gentle young man (3 years younger), calm, hard working and fun...we were on the phone every evening for 2 weeks before our second date and I had a strong feeling we connected well and that I had found someone for a long term relationship...
I know I rushed into it like a mad woman...I was probably lonely for too long a time...
Anyway the second date turned into a disaster...My bo came clean with a medical problem he has and this changed my whole perception of him...anway I won't go into details..
The second date and the moments we shared together certainly affected my feelings for him from romantic to just friendly...
We communicated on this and we agreed that we would not pursue the relationship...
I feel bad about something though...this young man has been stuck with this problem for ages and has not done anything to investigate where it stems from or to resolved the issue...shyness, low self esteem, lack of confidence...
My friends are suggesting I forget about him as an adult should know how to take care of himself and fix his problems...
I feel though that he is a very lonely person, buried his life into work, has some friends but never talked openly about this problem to anyone...so going to a doctor is an extremely difficult step to make...
I keep thinking that we did not meet by chance and that something positive should come out of the disastrous turn of event.
I would like to help him but I don't want him to become psychologically dependent on me...I want him to take control of his lfe and problems.
What would you do and what is the best way to go about this?