My bf is turning 25 in a few days, our one year is on the same day. We've been living together for 5-6 months. (known each other for almost 2 years)*
Truth be told. I met him in the personal ads on Craigslist too. I was new and not too social in the new area because I was still bitter about moving. I went on Craigslist, posted an ad in the strictly platonic section *(lets talk, maybe a movie hang out and grab coffee thing.)*
He responded, and we actually started talking through text / online messaging, and a couple weeks later we decided to go see a movie together.
*We got really closer and closer then..... One of my bestfriend's, friend also used the personal ads from Craigslist and found out he too responding to her ad (he sent in his picture and she regconized me in there because I WAS IN THE GROUP PICTURE WITH HIM) this was a DATING AD.
I confronted him and he told me it was out of curiosity of how the women looked. Or if these ads were real or bots. And it's a weird hobby of his. &a little bit where he really wanted to meet someone amazing and he thought i wasnt interested... Something along those lines.*
We worked things out, and well we dated for a year. He promised he would put an end to it and he was embarrassed. He gave me the pw to his email and said I can check anytime. I checked 3-4x for the first month of our relationship, I started trusting him again and stopped keeping a close eye.*
Now things appear pretty shady again.... Not only had he changed the password to that email, he completely deleted it off his iPhone. (iPhone has this app where you can read your gmail and yahoo all in one inbox) i didn't think much of it at first, I just thought he wasn't going to use that old email and the pw wasn't easy to remember.*
But I went into his sent email for his "professional" email account because I was curious at where he was trying to apply for jobs, and saw the personal ad emails... They had his photos. His legit personal description, and named me the exgf.... Is this his boredom again? Isn't it worse that he used real information about himself and a real photo? He's using his work email to send but he gets responses from his personal old email. He hasn't met anyone in person, but how do I know when he's in his office alone he isn't having a connection with another woman ? His post read how he just got out of a relationship and is looking for a "clean, cute/sexy, smart Asian" and I know, all hell rain on me for being a crazy snooping gf, but it's a freakn iPhone, they make snooping easy, anyway I clicked his trash for his personal and for a 3 second lag I saw messages in there about a lonely girl or something. But there were three different conversations. Anyway they were deleted in the trash ... *Kdjsdjf sigh...*
I put the phone away and stepped back, but do men do this as a hobby? Apparently a lot of men do this, i googled, and gfs forgave them, but its so hard. Is it possible to step to this level when you live with a gf that literally caters to him? Cook, clean, pick up dinner, iron... Buy gifts... I treat him better than myself sometimes.*