Don't get a woman just for your son. The woman you date must be someone that adds to your life and be part of the family. You don't want to have different women marching in and out of your life. My mom dating different men didn't bother me, but I'm a weirdo. It does bother a lot of kids.
You need to learn how to be more nurturing while being firm too. There must be firm moments and loving moments. Look for books on raising a child. The worst things you can do to a child: coddling him, and being too hard on him. There is a middle that most people never find.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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