I have been with a girl for around 1 year and our relationship has gotten very tense lately. The main problem is that we misunderstand each other alot, and that leads to lots of arguments. She drives me insane, and (according to her) I drive her insane as well. We can have good, fun and intimate times together, but I feel that she is ruining my health with her stubborn and crude attitude, because as angry as that makes me, I can feel the symptoms of the anger in my body. She demands a lots of attention and when I fail to give her that, she tends to drive me nuts.
That is the dilemma, where I compare the good sides about this relationship with the bad ones. The bad ones are the highest, in my point of view.
She makes me feel so sad and angry sometimes with the way she speaks to me, that I end up calling her very bad words. That way I (subconsciously) transfer the sadness and anger back to her, and that way it just ping-pongs back and forth.
And as wrong as it is, I actually slapped her for a week ago, because she was really frustrating me with the way she spoke to me, and at that time I felt helpless and like I didn't want to down to her level. I feel bad about it, but it felt good when I did it, because of the way she spoke to me, and how it made me feel - and that felt like justice. Yes I am an idiot for slapping a woman, but that is the first time I did it, and that was after very long time after putting up with her behaviour.
Many times she tends to ruin my day, when I call her with good intentions and suddenly she brings some old grudge up, and tries to analyze: it, me, and why I act the way I do.
I would like to move on with my life, without her, but I know that with her obsession about; trying to understand everything, that is not going to be easy. She is over-sensetive/hysterical, and succeeds many times in making me feel bad about how she feels herself.
I am a person that absorbs alot of the mood, that I am surrounded by, and therefore you can see how easy it is for me to change moods. To rephrase: The mood smears out on me very easy and my short is rather fuse when it comes to anger.
EDIT: (updating)