I came from another country and I am trying online dating with girls who can speak my language. I got divorced at 40 and got back to new dating thing. I have never had any problem making good friends among guys and girls in real life. In real life I have been complemented for my looks, vocal tone and friendliness a few times. I am struggling for what to do with the start of an online relationship.
1] Scene one: First I started to talk with a girl. On the first day, we talked for an hour and her daughter was crying (it was probably her bed time), I suggested she can put the kid in the bed and call me back if she wants. She said she would call me back but she did not. Then I texted her a day later, she did not reply. After a day or two she says she wanted to talk. She said she was not ready because she is afraid about the fake people online. Then we talked a day or two and we talked about whether it should be exclusive or not. It seemed to me, that she wanted it to be exclusive, as soon as I said I am ok with being exclusive, she stopped talking to me. A few days later she texted me back that she wanted to talk, it seemed like she wanted to keep searching and still talk to me. We talked pretty late on Friday night and said she can talk on Saturday and she called it off on Saturday. I felt clueless whether she likes me or whether I am showing too much interest. What should I do? Walk away? Am I suffocating her?
2] Scene two: So there is that another girl who showed me interest online, I called her. It seemed to me that we could talk for a long time. She said she was talking to another guy, but the guy said he is looking for better matches; so she is looking for better matches too. So in the middle of conversation, someone kept calling on her land-line. Her sister took the call and said someone wants to talk to her. She said "she would talk to that person later". I told her "she can go if she had to". But that person kept on calling over and over. So at some point she said that she would have to take the other call and she can call me back. I had to go hiking with friends and I did not make a good effort on telling her the time when we can talk. If she does not call me, should I call her back? Should I wait a one, two or three days, before I call her. It does seem to me that girl likes the other guy but he was not ready. At the same time he does not want to lose her. What should I do?
In general, I do feel I can make good impressions if I meet them in real life, my experience from real life tells me that. I just want to know a girl and see if she is right for me. But it seems like I am on a market where everyone is talking to everyone. Attractive girls are connected to someone before me and that person is not committing; What is the best strategy? How often should I call? There other girls who wanted to meet with me right away or wanted to have more exclusive phone conversations with me. I did not like them for one thing or other. I stopped talking with them, but it seems most people keep someone waiting for them. I need advice.