OK, so the story goes, I have been dating the same girl for almost 4 years. When new years rolled around, I was getting really depressed over ALOT of stuff going on in my life, and I told her I just needed a break, but I still loved her. Well, we took the break, and still continued to hang out at least once or twice a week. Still made love to oneanother, still felt REALLY close to eachother, still told eachother we loved them. After about 1.5 to 2 months, I told her that we were ready to get back together and I was ready to fix it. But there was a short period of time when we didn't get to see eachother for about 3 weeks, and she was getting upset, but wasnt telling me. She eventually got drunk and eneded up at a "friends" apartment and the two ended up not having sex, but very close, naked making out and some oral. She didn't tell me about this happening though.
Then, she started talking to this guy that was friends with her best friends. She is only 20. This guy is 28, has a kid, but abandonded it, (never even seen it), still lives at home, has been in trouble for beating his women and being an alcholic. they talked online mostly, and then went on a date. i found out about this when I went to see her again. I could tell something was bothering her, but she denied it. When she went to work, i snooped thru her computer(sorry girls, don't hate me for it) and found some rough stuff. she had been telling this guy how she wanted to f*** him and have children and all this. Told him how bad of a person I was to her. Shew, it was PAINFUL!!!!! There were about 70,000 instant messages in just a period of 2 weeks, and needles to say, i couldn't read them all there. So I forwarded them to my e-mail and waited on her to get off work. we argued pretty hard, and I made her feel like DIRT. Then ask her if there was ANYTHING else she wanted to tell me. ANYTHING???? The answer I got was "no, i promise"
So when i got home that evening, i read some more of the IM's between her and the other guy. I eventually read where she was bragging to him about getting drunk and messing with the other guy. SHEW...that made me mad too. So I went to see her again that evening and we had another nock down drag out argument and I made her feel horrible. Then after some days of talking, we decided to restart and regain eachother trust. Told eachother that we loved oneanother. OK...so it will get better right???
NOPE, she was still torn over this guy she went on one date with. She told me she loved me, but had feelings for him too. I got a little upset, and it made her mad. I eventually sent flowers to her and everything, but she was already hanging all over this other guy. And the day after she received my flowers, they were dating. HOW??? She said she loved me!
So now she wants to just be friends, but it hurts so much. I LOVE her VERY much. How do I get her back? I know she still has feeling for me, but she burries them. And this guy she is with is just a smooth talker, but that is what she likes, and is so incredibly happy with him. GOD, I miss her so much, and I'm so jealous. I have givin her flowers and all inds of stuff, but she just wont open up to me. What do I do. And I don't want to hear MOVE ON right now. I just need advice. Thanks