I was talking to this girl in thailand for 3 years online just as friends.. nothing more.. then when we met this year.. we both made out pretty passionately.. from there on.. we got really close.. almost crazy close.. i told her it seems like we're both pretty crazy for eachother.. and she agreed.. she's 22.. i'm 32, here in the states, and she's over there in thailand.. anyway, so she started law school and her parents don't approve of her relationship w/ me because they believe she needs 100% focus on school.. before we would talk over 6 hours nonstop almost everyday for weeks.. but now they took away her phone.. we were able to communicate through email.. but she's not doing so well in school.. and not able to focus on school entirely because of me.. then later she sent a breakup email saying that she really needs to be able to finish her law school before she can have a relationship.. all this happened in a span of 3 months.. before we would chat, txt, talk everyday.. and i felt genuinely close w/ her.. and felt it was very mutual.. here's the thing though.. her law school ends in 4 years.. and i really don't want to wait that long.. it's so risky.. everyone needs that closeness.. it's hard for either of us to maintain such an empty heart for so long..
what i'm thinking is that.. i should visit her anyway when she's on her school break.. not a surprise, i'lll get her consent.. here's the thing.. i have a family reunion in japan during her break.. i'm thinking of visiting her after the family reunion.. but obviously if it's such a short visit.. then she'll start thinking about me again and can't focus in school.. i'm pretty much retired already.. my companies pays my bills every month and then some w/o me being there.. if anything.. i can even live in thailand if it comes to that.. i can drive her to school and maintain a relationship w/ her there.. her sister wasn't permitted to have a relationship when she was in law school too.. but she ended up having one anyway.. so i'm thinking.. they've already paved the way.. why can't she have a relationship too? my friends consider that i'm a good guy.. a friend told me when i was buzzed at the bar.. i was dancing with a few girls there and he over heard me saying "i'm taken".. i didn't even remember i said that.. but i guess it shows something.. i really want to be able to pursue this girl.. it's worth it.. it's not that much trouble.. i can maintain a living anywhere in the world as i wish.. i think in 3 months i should go anyways and attempt to visit her w/ consent.. she is so amazing to me.. i don't have difficulty meeting women here.. and i have a strong sense she isn't just going for me for my US status.. she's really just into me for me..
does anyone have any suggestions for me to make this situation groove better in terms of getting together with her? i'm thinking i can start a business in thailand so it gives me a natural reason to be there all the time..
here are the positives:
- it'll help her country
- create jobs for her ppl (basically helping ppl out)
- allows me to be there with her naturally..
- could be a profitable venture anyways
negatives
- risky owning a foreign asset
- i might cause her to lose focus in school
- risking her parents approval of me
kinda think of it.. i can just start a business there w/o her consent really? it's fair game.. we're officially broken up anyways
let me know if you have any suggestions ideas.. or questions.. thanks for reading this far!