My boyfriend doesn't physically abuse me, but I think he emotionally abuses me.
This all started when I moved in last month.
He can be controlling in some ways.
- He is always on his phone, but when I get on mine, obviously texting someone, he gets p*ssy.
- He always wants to do what he wants, only watches what he wants, and then makes fun of things I like, such as anime, soccer, or cats (he hates those things), and gets defensive when I try to give him a taste of his own medicine.
- He tells me he wants me to hang out with my friends sometimes, but his attitude about it tells me the opposite (he has a "whatever" mood when I mention I'm going to).
He tries to get me to drink alcohol more than I am comfortable. He has actually gotten mad at me because I have no desire to get drunk.
He disrespects me in front of his friends/with his friends.
He withholds affection - he didn't use to.
He acts like going out on a date with me is a huge chore and takes a lot out of him. - again, he didn't use to be like that.
He stresses the importance of me getting a job so we can move out on our own ASAP- puts me down and insults me because I don't have one yet. I'm seriously working my butt off to try to get a job, it's extremely difficult, and all he can do is tell me the obvious, "Get a job already." He's only ever had to apply 3 times, in his entire life.
'nuff said.
He puts everything before me now.
He literally loves his dog more than me - he said "If I had to choose between you and him, you wouldn't like my choice." I never told him to choose, he blurted it out after telling me that it is all my fault his dog has been much more disobedient than usual (The dog just had training camp last month, right before I moved in, and I spend all day with him since I don't have a job). His dog is at his teenage age, plus he's bound to test the waters after being at training classes..
He expects me to be like an expert trainer.
He will not allow me to have a cat when we move out together, or much of any other pet, yet he's allowed to have his dog - who, by the way, is extremely annoying, smelly and ALWAYS needs attention. Cats don't smell near as bad and they don't need near as much attention, they go do their own thing most of the day.
If something he says/does bothers me, I tell him. He then proceeds to tell me that when I bring up this stuff he gets stressed out.
He tells me I'm so immature.
He's so critical of everything I say or do, and tells me that I'm the exact same towards him.
He's the most selfish person I've ever met.
He admits he's an A hole but says he that's "who he is and it isn't going to change."
I am miserable in this relationship. But I desperately want things to change for the better. I've told him this, and he's making no effort to fix things.