My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. Things were going great. We had been together almost a year and had been talking about settling down and a future together. Next year we were going to be long distance and he was tossing around the idea of going on a break cause he wasn't sure if he was ready to settle down, but he wanted to stay with me and have a future with me.
He bought me a diamond necklace for christmas and I thought it meant he was accepting how serious things were. We came back from break and things were ok. We had some arguments about plans and miscommunication and one night he just got scared and said he wished we could skip the next 2 years cause he didn't see long distance working out. Promised me we were going to be ok and make it through this. He said he loved me and just got scared. 2 days later he broke up with me. In between he acted like things were normal sending me sweet texts. He imed that day discussing a misunderstanding and and saying he didn't want to break up but he was scared it was going to come to that but he really wanted this to work and that he loved me. His friends talked with him and they told me they were as shocked as I was cause 2 hrs before he told them he wasn't ending it he just wanted to talk with me about things that were bothering him.
I gave him some space but when we've discussed things he says something different each time. (He has too much on his plate, we want 2 different things, we both have too strong personalities, we argue a lot, he wants to be single, a bunch of little things were bothering him and they all came out at once) He says he's enjoying being single cause he has freedom with his time and not having an emotional commitment on top of everything else. We discussed some things that if said would have led to a very different situation. He isn't planning on dating anyone else for another year cause it's why he said he ended it to me (although he tells people we argued too much). He said he doesn't want anything until he has a job and knows where he will be. He could see coming back to this but probably not cause where will I be in a year or 2. He said he misses me here and there and just keeps busy, but he isn't considering anything anymore. He said he thought it through beforehand enough.
Did he ever even love me? Is there hope that we could get back together? Is he just scared? How can he make up his mind in 2 hrs or 2 days? What should I do? Give it time? Forget about him? I really love him and want this to work. I don't think long distance will be like he thinks it's going to be.