Basically this book tells you that if a guy wants you, he'll do everything he can to try to get with you. If he only calls once a week, he's just not that into you and you should stop bothering with him. If he doesn't seem to be putting a lot of effort into trying to hang out with you he's just not that into you. If he's into he'll want to see you all the time and will make every effort to contact you. If he doesn't you should leave him alone and move onto someone who is more "into you."
I feel like this does explain a lot, and it is a shame that we girls tend to chase a guy who doesn't care about us because we really really want it to work. But aren't there other reasons that you guys might have an attitude change about things, or any other reason that a guy might keep his distance?
I ask because the guy I've been hanging out with has just recently stopped being as responsive in the past few days (yes the 19 yr old "little boy" from my other post!). This happened just after we went out on Monday and had our first kiss. I'm thinking maybe he just didn't feel anything when we kissed and has changed his mind about the situation. I've talked to him online since, but his hasn't called and we haven't had any of the lovey dovey conversation we used to have. He usually texts me or sends me messages right when I go online but lately he's been putting up his away message and not paying as much attention to me.
But on the other hand he's always been kind of guarded. We'd be cuddling and when things got kind of intense he'd move away from me. But I'd act cool with him and soon enough things would be back to the way they were before. He's definitely the type that would sacrifice his own feelings just so he wouldn't end up looking stupid or getting hurt. I know how that can be because I'm sort of the same way.
So now I'm wondering - should I give him space? Does it sound like he has changed his mind about things and is just not that into me anymore? Or do you think he got a little freaked out when we kissed and is afraid to talk to me now? In that case, should I try to reassure him that everything is cool and hope he warms up again?
Guys - when you start acting like this with a girl - what does it usually mean?