Is OM in a relationship too?
You and your husband should have went for counselling BEFORE your affair started. Its too late now to save it, the damage is done. He will never get over this and never trust you again. He gave you 20years of his life! What a horrible way to end a marriage and now hes just a backup plan coz u have nowhere else to go..
I really dont have any sympathy for you. Affairs never work out. There a fantasy, a delusion and an escape from reality. Real life with him would be far different than the daydream you created in your head.. There is a 1% chance of it actually working out and then its usually a destructive relationship based on a rocky foundation of trust issues and fear. You would never trust each other coz of how you got together. Its all based on infatuation and fantasy.
I still find it hard to believe that so many older married people dont understand the difference between infatuation and love SMH
anyway you wont get over him till u go and experience reality with him and learn your lesson the hard way via a rebound.
I pity your children. Youve turnrd their world upside down and torn your family apart. I hope he was worth it
Ya i know im being a b**ch but someone has to say it
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".