I'm a guy. He's not used to being intimate and in love with someone. Pure and simple. I was the same way when I was young. I learned to enjoy being in love, and faced my fears. I no longer let my fears control me.
Guys are socialized very differently than girls when it comes to showing positive emotions like love. They are sometimes beat up for showing emotions in high school, in my day anyway, or tormented by being called gay. (Not so big a deal these days in most schools. But 20 years ago it was a big deal.) You should be patient but encouraging with him. Tell him how much it means when he acts "girlie", or shows or shares his emotions with you. Make sure you assure him his emotions will be private with you and you will not tell anyone about them.
Last edited by bulrush; 06-12-11 at 01:13 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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