Hey everyone! I just wanted to hear you feedback on my current situation. Right now I couldn't be happier with my relationship. My current boyfriend is one I took with me from high school into my freshman year of college. I go to college in Kentucky and he goes to college in South-West Indiana. He is my best friend and I would trust him with anything. He never fails to put a smile on my face, even if we're 250 odd miles apart.
He makes me feel beautiful, while also encouraging me to live an even more active lifestyle. We're adventurers together. I had the most wonderful time with him. I feel so much closer to him than I ever had before. We explored Lexington on Saturday and Frankfort today. We learned so many new things and it's like this weekend created this whole new connection. That maybe after this mini vacation, this could be for real and if we can maintain this relationship, more people can take us seriously when we say we want to take the next step when we graduate school.
The whole reason I am writing this post is because I got in some trouble with my parents this weekend because they found out that he came and stayed with me. I didn't tell them that he was coming down (It never crossed my mind because they live three hours North of me.) and they essential got upset with me. I called my mother three times trying to get in contact with her and she finally called me back today. She told me that she is very disappointed in me, and that I need to get more engaged into school. She wants me to succeed but I "still have a foot in Indiana". Both of my parent have preached to me that they don't me to settle down with the first guy to give me attention. (He is my first boyfriend) And they tried early last fall, my dad especially, to get me to reconsider my relationship when it came time to leave. They had me so convinced that's what I needed to do, that I told my boyfriend that it would be best that we take a break when school starts and see where it takes us. The whole time that plan was in place, I never felt right about it. I eventually broke down to my boyfriend that it wasn't what I really wanted and he was relieved to hear that, but he just wanted to make me happy and he went along with it.
I know I must sound like just another naive teenage girl, but I've always been loyal to my friends, family, to books, television shows...and since the relationship started- my boyfriend. The best way to describe how I feel is now that I don't have a concrete "home" he's my home. Not once since I've been down here, have I really just wanted to sleep in my own bed. I've just wanted to have him by my side again. He is my partner in everything. We have such real plans for the future, and when I see him, I see that. We aren't soul mates, but we're really close.
I'm just torn between him and my mom and dad's vision for me. My mother has told me on more than one occasion that she wants me to be independent and successful. And my dad wants that times ten. I'm the oldest of four and they just have such high hopes for me that they don't want me to be tied down by one boy. Especially not one they didn't imagine me being with. (Since I come from a really athletic family and I am a collegiate athlete, they didn't imagine me falling in love with an anti-sport gear-head pilot who banters about politics with old men and smokes a pipe and the occasional cigar.)
Since my boyfriend and I are becoming increasingly serious about our future together, I want to see them in that. I'm afraid of what may come if I really have to choose between having a relationship with my parents or my best friend. I can feel the tension getting tighter. I would love if someone would give me a little bit of insight.
Thank you!
Adair.