I have been writing with a woman my age (mid/early 30s) for about two weeks.
She also says she knows (he's not good for her), but her head can't win over her heart right now and she needs time to understand it, but as he does not seem willing to let her go and over and over throws some hope along her away, she can't get away from him.
She's way too preoccupied with this supposed ex of hers to be 100% available and present for anything---even friendship. I seriously doubt that what they have is a relationship more than it is a huge ball of power struggle going on with both of them intent on winning.
The good (or bad?) thing is that this could be the beginning of an amazing friendship too actually.
Do you just want to be her male girlfriend? That's what girlfriends do--talk about their relationships and trying to "understand" the obvious.
But there's no way I can ask her for a meeting at this point because her head is full with this other guy and besides she has temporary psychological issues that are so severe that she cannot even leave the house most of the time.
What kind of temporary severe psychological issues?
The picture she sent me was really appealing too. I am pretty sure the moment I see her in real, I will fall for her if I haven't already. I am really struggling with this situation and with what's the best way to behave.
Don't waste your time. Her focus is on another man.
But if you choose to waste your time, I think you should meet in person sooner than later--so that you're not building an artificial construct around who you want her to be instead of who she actually is. You don't have to ask her to marry you on the day you meet her--but at the very least, Skype/Facetime/Snapchat so that who she actually is is who is in that picture she sent to you.
Cool your jets about her until you two have had a couple of in person meetings/interactions before you let your imagination off its leash, only to let you down because she wasn't who you created in your mind.
Last edited by Minikimini; 23-04-18 at 06:09 AM.
People treat you the way they feel about you
If you choose to remain with someone who doesn't treat you well, you cease being the victim and become the volunteer.
~Derrick Jaxn -- look him up