I met this girl at a friends' party and there was something about her style that got my attention. She's reserved, kinda shy but has this smile that wanted me to get to know her more. I got her number that night and asked her out.
We've been out for 5 dates now (in about 2 months...) and I can't get close to her. She doesn't call... likes texting but for a short period and expects me to do that if I ask her out. I still can't hold her hand because she gives me that look as if we're not going out....
I've showed her my interest by indicating that I liked her on the first night I met her... She said that she would like to hang out as friends.
Before the 3rd date she said she was feeling sick. Because of a mix of her "shy" personality and somewhat distanced attitude, I told her that I understand and that it's ok if she's not interested and that I can move on.. She convinced me that she still was interested and that she was really sick. I apologized and that phone call was the longest one I've had with her (10 minutes...) and got to know her more than I've had during the 2 dates before that. I'm saying that because when I tried having a conversation with her, her answers were very dry and were never continuous, my questions were always answered with a yes or no..... and that's it.
When I saw her last week she "warned" me that she's really busy for the next 3 weeks, which obviously means: no texting, no calling and no going out.
I'm trying to convince myself to move on but I don't know how to explain that I can't let her go because she's the first girl in several years that I actually have feelings for.
I want to add that she never had a serious bf... actually she told me that she had one and she broke up after a month because he wanted to have sex. I don't know how to tell her that I'm not like her ex and want to give her all my respect.
I'm 23 and I think I'm physically attractive. My friend tells me that I can get better because she thinks that the girl is boring and not that good looking but she has no idea how much I care about her. That friend invited me to a b-day party and the girl I have a crush on is invited.
My question is... if I see her there, what should I do? The 3 weeks haven't been up yet and I'm tired of playing the waiting game... Sjpi;d I ignore her and show her that I'm not dependant? or hang out with her during the party...
This is kinda weird because now that I actually fall for a girl, I have no idea what to do.
I'm thinking that she has trust issues with guys... that story with her ex must have pissed her off... but after seeing her 5 times, I have no idea how to convince her that she can trust me... I know that trust is gained and never instant, but should I even bother pursuing her with that attitude?
Thanks for reading