Am I unreasonable/ irrationally jealous/ controlling for not wanting my boyfriend to have a weekly platonic dinner date with his ex (also his "best friend") as well as other days spent walking and drinking tea or eating her cooking at her apartment??
points to consider:
last night we broke up when i told him i wasn't okay with my boyfriend needing a weekly dinner date and another evening of drinking tea/going for a walk/ going over to her house and eating his exe's cooking in order to function in life. i asked if he would be able to keep her in his life, but not on on such a frequent, involved basis (ie: not going on dates with other girls when he could be spending his time and money on dates with me, platonic or not!). he said, maybe but not anytime soon...lol
she is single. neither of them has been able to sustain a relationship with someone else since they "broke up". they DO NOT have kids together.
he and i have been dating for 5 months. they "broke up" for 2 weeks a year and a half ago before resuming their best friend relationship that occurred after living together in a sexless relationship for 2 whole years...!
she has made ZERO effort to get to know anything about me, including times when we have all hung out together. she wasn't rude....by shy and uninterested when my guy would try to engage her in any conversation about good things about me. also has not invited me to their get togethers, or reached out to me even when my guy was devastated that we had broken up over this issue. apparently though, she did say, "aww...that's sad you guys broke up i've never seen you smile like that with anyone"..................followed up by more inaction.
thanks in advance, lovers