Originally Posted by
Mona_B
I posted something about the thing I am going through at the moment. What I am learning out of it that most problems we create for ourselves are coming out of the fact that we are attaching ourselves to the wrong people. Otherwise we would recognize a bad situation and just walk out of it. I read other posts here and it is always the same. Why is he/she doing that and taking it personal instead of just leaving it alone. I am trying, but then I fall back again in the same old emotional state. Which is really giving power away instead of using it for something better.
I think it has to do with our previous experiences, especially with our childhood. I had a father who was not available, physically and emotionally. He hated women, at least he had no respect for them. And sure enough, as much as I didn't like him, I still fall for guys who are like this and try to change the story trying to change them. It never works of course. I had also some traumatic experiences which plays a role. And so it happened that I never had a functional relationship.
As long as I am alone, I am doing fine. I have friends and a good life. Only when I start having love emotions, the whole mess is starting. This is why I think it is the best to leave it alone and just be by myself.
Just wondering if there are people who have the same experiences or if I am just so strange...
Stop whining and compalaining on here and get on with your life. How's it feel????
Loved you once, love you still...Always have, always will