My ex and I broke up about 18 months ago. Our relationship was really good, and we had even talked marriage quite a bit.
We broke up mutually. I had been really depressed and didn't want to burden him with it. In addition, I wanted to travel while he wanted to stay put. He also doesn't have a lot of long range goals for himself, which really bothered me. He wanted to split because he needed some "time apart". Although the decision was mutual, it was still very painful. We continued acting like we were together for a long time, until he left to go on a tour and then we decided to stop talking so often.
My friend died while he was gone and he was an absolute jerk about it. It took me a really long time, but I finally cut my ex out of my life because I felt like it was totally rude and unfair. I reconnected with him around Christmastime this year. I should mention that I did end up traveling and moved half way around the world during this time and was able to forgive him after a long thought process.
Now I've returned and after a year and a half, we're finally back in the same city. We talked on the phone for a long time and had plans to meet up. Then, I got sick and had to cancel and he was totally cool with it (I get sick a lot, which he knows, I have a condition, but whatever that's not important to the story). Later, I tried to make alternate plans with him, and he seemed to want to, but seemed hesitant. I had texted him once and he never responded. So I just asked him (by e-mail) if he didn't want to see me or seeing me made him feel uncomfortable. No response. He later poked me on facebook. I reassured him I wasn't looking to get back together him (he thinks all his exes are in love with him) and that I had moved on. In fact, I am interested in someone else (I didn't say that though). No response.
It drove me crazy for weeks on end, especially since we run around with a few mutual friends and do have the possibility of running into one another. So I just told him if seeing me made him feel uncomfortable, he should have said something and it's really rude to just ignore me.
No response.
WTF? If he is scared to see me for some reason, I wish he'd just SAY instead of being rude and not responding....this is driving me nuts.