So at the beginning of last year I started texting and hanging out with a girl from work, we mostly went out with other people but a few times it was just the two of us. A couple of times we spent the whole day together and at night went out with her sister and sisters boyfriend. Maybe it's just the way I am but I don't think thats the normal way to act with people you just want to be friends with, especially hanging out with other couples. Eventually I kissed her and she backed right off, she made excuses any time I wanted to see her and could hardly look me in the eye when we spoke. I know I should have just let go there and then but by this point I was more or less crazy for her. I believed her when she told me she was too stressed with University to get into anything and held out hope that when she had more time I'd get another chance. It also didn't help the 'getting over it' process when she text me every day (often before my alarm clock went off) for the next year.
A few weeks ago I was having coffee with a female friend and so didn't respond to her texts right away. When I told her why she got jealous, told me that she liked me but it was obvious to her that I didn't feel the same way. I told her how wrong she was and all about how I'd felt for the past year, she came back with 'whatever, I dont want to talk about this right now.
Another few weeks of talking every day but ignoring how I felt by until she started talking about another guy at work she likes. Now they're seeing each other and are about to 'go public' and she texts me to tell me everything. I've told her to give me some space and leave me alone for a while but she got upset and told me I was being unreasonable. She thinks I should just be able to stop feeling the way I do and go on acting the way I did before. She says she doesn't want to feel like she hurt me and everytime she talks to me she ends up in tears. So I can either pretend I'm fine or cut her off and let her make me feel guilty over it. Is there any other way?