I'm with smackie on this one too:
Originally Posted by
jcm
I was on and off for 2 years with this woman.
Being "on and off" with someone is natures way of telling you that you're wasting your good dating years on the wrong person. Stop all contact with her so that you can eventually get to the stage of indifference to her so that you'll be open to finding and being with someone that is more suited as a LIFEmate for you.
She's with someone new and its time you did the mental/emotional work you need to do to get over her so that you too can find someone that you'll not have to be "off and on" with. Don't haggle with your own emotional health a minute longer with her, this fluff you keep going back to.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion