Hello,
I am having a serious problem atm and i need some advice on how i can convince my girlfriend she's good for me.
My girlfriend and i first met online about 18 months ago and she used a picture on her MSN that looked alot like her, but was infact a different girl. We have moved our relationship to real life since a year.
She said it was an old picture and since it looked very similiar to her recent pictures and how she looked in real life, i believed her.
Last night my friend found out the picture was infact NOT my girlfriend. I confronted her with it and she admitted she didnt want to confess because she absolutely hates lying and was terrified id dump her for it.
I was upset of course, but i stayed calm, i let her do her story and i forgave her. In the grand scheme of things i didnt find it something worth throwing an otherwise very beneficial relationship away for. She didnt mean to upset me or hurt me, she just made a mistake because she was insecure about her looks and then felt "trapped" in the lie and hoped it would just blow over.
It was wrong of her, and she should feel guilty of course and she really does. But i now believe she is getting overly dramatic.
She said she can no longer be in a relationship with me and wants to continue as friends for the time being. She is keeping herself "reserved" and wont date or get intimate other people. She feels she hurts me and couples should not hurt eachother, ever. I think it is possible for people to make mistakes and hurt someone they love by accident. I once lied to her and we survived that business, so i just want to move on.
She feels she is not good for me and is better able to prevent me from getting hurt and make me happy if she is just a good friend to me.....i do not want that and im not even sure if i want to stay in contact with her if this break becomes permanent. It would hurt.
She is very careful of my feelings and i never felt as good taken care of as in the past year we have had a real life relationship. If this break becomes permanent it will hurt way more then just that stupid little lie!
How can i best handle the situation to show her i am better off WITH her, insted of being friends or no contact at all? She's one stubborn girl.
Do i keep distance from her and become grumpy? Show her the break is causing me to become unhappy?
Do i smile through the pain and show her she is making me happy even as friends and not hurting me?
Do i ......?