Okay so here the situation. My boyfriend of a year and I broke up a month ago. I still love him and regret ending it, but he was the one who made the decision. I didn’t fight him on it because I knew it wouldn’t help, but I felt a degree of betrayal that he gave up on me.
Over the next days he would keep texting me to ask how I was doing. He said it was hard for him too but we would get through it and said “if you ever need me I’ll always be here for you.” Which I didn’t believe at the time, since he left me. He said he still had feeling for me, but he didn’t think we should date. I told him that as long as we both had feelings for eachother I didn’t want to be “just friends”…I wasn’t ready.
But he kept texting me, and then he told me I was being childish for letting a break up ruin our friendship. Finally I lost it, I told him to leave me alone and stop trying to be my friend (in much stronger language). I felt bad for chewing him out the next day, but before I could apologize, he sent me a message saying “I’m sorry for last night. You had every right to say those things.” And that night he sent me a goodnight text. (Is it normal to send your ex goodnight texts…?)
And today he asked me out to lunch. I was SO happy, but when I asked why he said “I just wanna talk” and I said, “what about?” and he said, “Well, I don’t have an agenda to discuss, but it can’t hurt. I’m not saying we’re getting back together.” I said, “I’m glad you asked me and I would love to see you, but I guess I don’t understand where this is going.” He said, “I don’t either, but I just want to see you.”
So I’m confused now. He insists he doesn’t want to get back together now (he does say it’s a possibility someday…) but he texts me and calls me all the time (even after I acted like a total jerk, which I regret)…he sends me goodnight texts…and he asks me to lunch?
Do any of you guys have a clue what’s going through his hear?