Hey everyone!
I need some advice. Lately me and my boyrfriend seem to fight a lot.. We’ve been going out for almost 6 months now. I guess it’s normal that your relation changes after 6 months. You know, at first you’re both so hopelessly in love, and everything seems perfect. Then slowly this pink cloud seems to disappear. I used to be scared about what would happen when we wouldn’t be so in love any more. But luckily, this ‘in love’ feeling has been replaced by love. We’re really crazy about each other, and he even told me he wants to marry me in a few years..
So far so good, but you know, now that we’re not so much in love any more, we seem to fight much more often. I really love him, but I now seem to notice his bad habits much more. He can be really lazy, sometimes he doesn’t pay any attention to me at all, sometimes he dominates me, and he can be really rude. Also, he looks at other girls a lot and talks about them to me like I’m one of his friends.
You know, I’m rather insecure about myself and I’m really scared of losing him. So whenever he talks about other girls like that, I just feel more scared.
Sometimes I just want to discuss my feelings with him, but he doesn’t seem to understand me and we get into a fight. He says stupid, blunt things and I just get really upset.
So basically, what I’m wondering about: is it normal? Do all couples fight like that, or is there something wrong between us?
I do love him, and I do want to stay with him. I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to fight with him either.
Love, Alison