hi experts....please bare with me if this thread is too long.
I am 26 M, working for an IT company. I came back in my native place from USA last year. I went there to study and to get good experience in the same post studies.I was studious and sincere in my studies while I was studying there that is why i finished it with good grades.Here it all started. One my friend's friend (the girl) came in my contact 2 and half years back. Firmly, I can say that i was not interested in her in earlier days. I was a bit surprised why the girl calls me too often in those earlier days. We started to meet again and again and it ended in dating.Unfortunately recession began and even though having good academics i was not able to get a job. We still used to meet and date until last year summer. One day when we(we both and our common friend and her the best friend) went for a trip, her best friend said to me ,"Do something man...please do something asap. meet her....she is happy with you". So i decided to propose the girl. Until now i was sure that she would not say no. Unfortunately, she said no. A big NO. Later i realized that she was seeing another guy for an arranged marriage(her parents ask her to meet him). I was shocked. She was seeing her since last couple of months and she was also dating with me. I could not understand what is going. I called her the best friend. She plainly replied "you haven't got job yet nor you are settled down." Just 3 weeks back she told me to do something and now the same person told me this. It was really terrible feeling. i was not sure how to react on that. I was so annoyed with that reply. I tried to convince both of them to wait or a while and give me some time say 1 year . Things will be fine. but no use.i was so depressed as i was thinking to get married with her. i came back here in my country. got the good job, cut off all communication for almost a year. meanwhile she was trying to communicate via emails. i used to reply plainly and formally. i almost started to live a new life and here new problem began....now she tries to chat with me every time i log on to messenger. she tweets something emotional on every other day.....this is making me nervous again. see i want to live my own life now....i want to forget and move on in my career....don't want to involve again.....please advise me...how should i react? she is so caring in these days while chatting...inquiring everything which she never did in past year nor anybody(friends or well wishers) does generally quite often. indeed it's confusing me nor i know her true intentions.
1. should i remove her from all social networking sites and chats? (her updates and photographs still allure me.)
2. this is really high time in my career now....if i start to win now...i would be successful but thoughts about her are making me numb and sort of being disabled.
3. I won't say that it's only her fault at all...she might be trying to treat me as a friend but i am not perfect nor i know her intentions.(since last year she called me only once and that is also because i called her.)
4. I had some problems about her male friends in the past and her dressing (wearing) in front of her. as i said i used to feel insecure but even today i am feeling the same...i really want to get out of this...please help/suggest...i tried everything....hangout with friends,outing,music...there was no problem for past year but now i think it's social n/w sites and chats making me upset.
Please reply if you could read this long post. waiting for your expert opinions. PLease do let me know whether I am wrong....i am not able to concentrate on my work since last 7-8 days. please help
best regards.