Curiosity about Break Ups

[Kromat83]

I haven't experienced this yet, but it might happen to me eventually.

How long does it take to get over your ex?
Are some people just a little too obsessive?

I can't imagine what I'll feel like when my time comes, cause we get
along so well, and it barely took us time to fall in love.

It was like we were meant to cross paths and be with each other.

The thought of losing her and having to search again for someone
like that makes me happy, would be my biggest struggle.

All that time invested be lost and just have memories we shared, even
if it ended on good terms, and only factor was the distance.

[pcmaster]

Its takes about 6-12 months. Depends on age and active lifestyle.

Actually yesterday I found video on youtube Get Her To Chase YOU! Making Her Invest - theres pretty much explained about emotional investment and why some people dont feel like starting new relationships.

[basilandthyme]

I think it depends on if you're the dumper or the dumpee.

I left my ex-husband and got over him immediately. It took a week or two for the shock of having left to subside, but I can't say that I ever looked back or navel gazed after leaving him. I was simply having fun getting out and doing what I wanted. And it was fun to be dating again too.

However, if I were the dumpee and didn't want to end things, I can't imagine that it would be near so easy.

[Kromat83]

6-12 months, is quite substantial, not sure i can manage thinking about her that much.

I am 29, and this is my first one, so I try to keep quite busy now.

It'll be even harder if it does end, since she feels so right for me, like I was
meant to be with her, after falling in love with so little time invested.

At least i know that i'm motivated enough to succeed with or without her,
but it'll suck not being able to share what i have gained, and able to support
her as she's here by side in Canada, as she's still scared of this place.

[ashley89]

it all depends, each person is different. also depends on if you dumped or were the one dumped. everyone heals at their own pace, some get over it quicker and it takes other a bit longer. there isn't any real "set" time frame for when you're supposed to be over it. it took me about a year to get completely & totally over my ex, maybe a little bit less.

[ashley89]

I also think how long you dated plays a factor. you two haven't been together that long, so it might not be as tough. usually the longer the relationship lasts the harder it is to get over it

[Boisdevie]

There are too many variables to answer that question. What you are asking is 'how long will it take me to get over her' arent' you? Well that's impossible to answer for us because we are not you.

[michelle23]

I think it would take anything from 6 months to 2 years.

2 years if you have been together a long time and thought you would always be together. maybe 3 years for some people.

That ^^ is if you are the one being dumped and don't want it to end.

Kromat I also think you are not "in love" you are infatuated and there is a big difference.

[Boisdevie]

I think it would take anything from 6 months to 2 years.

Last time I was dumped it took me about a week. But then I'm a heartless bastard.

[pcmaster]

Kromat I also think you are not "in love" you are infatuated and there is a big difference.

How do you know that its not love?

Maybe thats the most man ever expierienced. So its a love for him.

How do you measure love? Where is the point between "real love" and dreaming? Maybe his adventure would be nothing for you but its everything for him.

Everyone have their own size of cup and the point where it is full and leaking over.

[michelle23]

I agree with you pcm. I am just pointing out that he should relax a little and go with the flow. he is in an LDR with a girl he spent one month with. I'm not saying it wont work out but I dont think he should be completely devastated and heart broken if it fails.

[Kromat83]

At this I am not seeing it as 100% working out, that is why I made this thread.
I am in love, but I need to be realistic about my situation.

Currently just focusing on myself and just
taking it slow and letting her have the space.

I don't need to be needy, and show that I can survive without her,
but lets hope she doesn't regret it later, when my life
is very stable and she is still struggling.

It would probably be too late if we broke up, and
she wanted to get back, as I might have moved on.

[Boisdevie]

Everyone have their own size of cup and the point where it is full and leaking over.

Very good point but what size of cup do most people have? I have a 300ml cup which is ideal for tea.

[Cerby]

The first heartbreak is the worst, after that you learn and recover much quicker. I remember getting dumped senior year in high school and taking months to get over it. I have been through a few breakups since then, including one with someone I did truly love, and that only took a couple of months to be completely over.

[surfhb2]

Well I was divorced in 2007 and just remarried last week. My point is you must always remember that life rolls on and you better catch the next train as soon as you possibly can

God....I was so bad at dating after 17 years