Need an outsiders point of view please
I am 31 mother of a son with autisum he is not not my partners natural child and my son has never met his father.
I think i am being used we have been together 2 years and my partner has only worked for 4 months of this.
He says all the right things how much he loves me how happy he is how my son is like his own ect, but he does not pay his way .
i love him and have been supportive about him looking for work but if a job does not land on his lap he will not look very hard for one he has not sent his c.v. to any agencies and does not really apply for anything. He was working with his friend but that job fell through as we got his paperwork wrong and he was blocked from site.
He was offered work starting at 6am he did not get out of bed and go as he didn't get to sleep til 2am (hot night) I woke up with him (as if he does have work i will get up at 5.30am and make his lunch/coffee) this upset me a lot and he apologised.
I've managed to convince him to apply for college but we have not heard back yet.
When he is not working he mainly plays on the pc or paints models if i ask him to do something around the house he will but the housework and cooking are done by me.
Because of his lack of work we are on benefits I stay at home to look after my son and when it was just my son and I we had enough money to live comfortably but with 3 its a tight budget so we rarely go out.
In the whole time with have been together he has not brought me any jewellery or surprised me with a gift
But when he does work he will give me the money for the house.
He tells me I deserve everything and he wants me to have lots of lovely things but never does it.
We don't really argue and get on well.
But I'm only 32 and want a nice family life not constantly juggling money and I rarely get time to myself having him around constantly is hard and I'm getting bored of his company.
I have a high sex drive and his a once a night less than 5 minutes kind of guy who doesn't do morning sex or quickies or anything spontaneous when I have tried he turns me down.
Should I end the relationship? am i being used? help please because i do love him.