I'll try and keep this brief. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. As I think most relationships go things aren't what they used to be. I take it in stride since we aren't married and she has said she never wants to get married again.
Here's the story. My.girlfriend went on a trip with her kids school. It was a few hundred miles away and they were gone for 5 days. She has always been good about staying in touch but after the beginning.of rhis teip she would barely respond to any texts and she wouldn't answer the phone. She didn't even.talk to her mom much which is strange. It bothered me just because of where she was I.was concerned for their safety even though they were in a group.She got snappy with me and told me she was too busy to text. Now I think a text saying we are ok isn't that hard to manage but whatever. It bothered me so I decided to leave her alone and it was 2 days before I hard anything feom her.. I tried to not let it bother me because I knew itwas a busy trip. When thet returned home late I let her rest that night and told her I.would see her the next evening.
The next day she texted me to say she was going to a bar with a girlfriend. Again it bothered me that she didn't seem to miss me at all. So it was the next day before I saw her because they stayed out late. She was quiet but I thought maybe she wastired. I noticed when she got a text that she had set up a lock on her phone whicg she never had before. Alarms were going off in my head this was my first clue with my ex wife. I kept my mouth shut and just observed. Other than a foot or back rub she didn't want to be touched and it had been a long dry spell. The next day her phone rang and she told me to get it because she knew it was her mom. Later she asked how did you answer my phone I have security set up buy it will let you answer incoming calls without the code. So I asked why did she set up a security code. She said because on the trip in case someone got her phone but she didn't take it off when she got home. I asked her what she was hiding which pissed her off but she did tell me her code. She then said I bet you look at the bill to see who I'm calling and that did seem like a good idea so I did. While she was gone one number came up alot. I thought maybe anothwr parent on the trip so I waited. Last night she went upstairs and left her phone downstairs and I was still up. I opened up her texts and there were no texts from that number from the trip. Another red flag. I checked the history on the phone and found some of the texts. Some were completly gone but there was enough. The whole trip when she disn't have time to call or text me or her mom she was blowing this persons phone up.It continued for a few days after the trip and ended after some odd texts. The unknown person texted my girlfriend while she was at work and asked if she was alone. She said she was at work but to call her direct exstension. The texts ended after that but there was 2 more phone calls one was 7 minutes and one was 9 minutes but here was the strangest thing to me she dialed the number with *67 whicg blocks caller id. I found that really odd. Well now my mind is all twisted up. I then checked to see if the day she supposedly went to the bar with a friend I looked to see if she even talked to her friend and she did but also texted an ex boyfriend and invited him to come too. Wtf she told me she knew I wouldn't want to go and listen to her friend. So I barely slept last night I wanted to wake her and talk but I don't know what to say. It looks bad but I can't prove anything. The most damning text between my girlfriend and unknown person was a couple of texts that seemed to have some previous texts missing. After unknown asked my gf if she was home or at work she said work but then the next text several minutes later said where and my gf said your house. I can't make that innocent in my mind no matter what I do. I don't know how to approach this. I got up this morning and took off driving to clear my head. When she woke up she called me and she knew something was bothering me but she said she knew she hadn't done anything. I said we'll talk later she wouldb't stop asking so I said she seemed like she didnt want me around anymore and it kept me awake and I quotr she said "you're goofy I can't believe you let that keep you up" I don't know how to approacg this.