All,
New to forum and looking for some advise.
I just broke off a relationship with a wonderful girl that I've known for 8 years and seriously for 2 years. We had a pretty good relationship for the most part and did a lot of fun things. However, we disagreed seriously about some trust and control issues that we never solved and I didn't see where it could be solved, even with counseling. I get terribly hurt when she often accused me of lying and doing things that I just didn't do. She had a history that showed this and never had a lasting relationship with any man that didn't end bitterly and/or divorce. Should have been a red flag but thought I was different.
I left her several weeks ago and am in the process of totally forgetting about her. Don't talk, write, email, text, excepting a quick text from her if she goes to a place where we could meet (which I avoid), about once a week or so, which I can live with. I've gone thru the usual things in eliminating anything that reminds me of her and trying not to do things that remind me of her. It's hard, but working.
I'm also seeing a new lady that I had been involved with for a long time relationship and wanting to rekindle that. It was a pretty quick transition and not sure it would work, but heard from a mutual friend that she was very interested in getting back together. The new lady knows of the situation but I don't talk about it much, as I don't want to upset her. She is very understanding and things have been working out quite well, so far. I don't want her as a rebound and don't believe it will be that way as we know each other quite well. The differences we had in the past are not anymore.
My goal is to just get the old GF totally out of my mind and think it's going too slow (but working). We were extremely close last year, living and planning a life together. Any additional ideas to help the process along?