So, OK, some of you know I've been dealing w/shit from my husband. Yet again, he threw me for a loop this weekend.
For those who don't know, briefly, I've been w/my hubby over 15 years. One child. Problems, blah, blah. Like everyone else. Been going to counselling this past year. So far, hasn't helped one bit (our problems).
Anyway, I've been away a lot (started a new company this past year & has been eating up a lot of my time). I also teach at the local university, so I haven't been around much the past few weekends. This weekend I was home. Made dinner, cleaned house, etc. Was a GOOD wifey.
So, in the kitchen, I just got home (around 3 PM Sat) and my husband is telling me about his stuff at work, etc. I listen, compliment him on how well he is doing, etc. He then comes out with this comment:
"Do you feel that you have grown from our marriage?"
I answer, yes, I have grown a lot from our marriage. He answers:
"I wonder how much more I might've been sometimes..."
WTF??
I tell him to explain his comment & that I am hurt that he might be implying I have somehow held him back (his career, he means). He said he was just "making conversation".
I then tell him I can't really continue to speak w/him at that time (I was really upset). I'm still upset and have told him I think we should go back to counselling.
He doesn't see the problem, tho I said QUITE EXPLICITLY that I felt his comment was hurtful and an attack on me/our relationship. No apology or anything, of course.
So... sometimes I wonder if it is possible to be too reasonable?? Maybe I should've just slapped his face for that kind of comment. Bah.
Note: I even apologized. I told him that if it weren't for our son, I would've "let him go" long ago to go do what he felt he needed to (win a Nobel prize, or whatever). He's pretty successful, BTW, by most ppls standards, anyway, so sometimes I wonder if we are back to that pyschological manipulation shit again.
For the record, I am not at all stupid, ugly, or unsuccessful by most ppls standards. I am utterly frustrated and confused, tho.
::sigh:: Rant Complete.