Hi all,
My ex called me up today, a week after I broke up with her, saying she misses me and started crying. I accepted the call because I had given her mixed signals previously after she unleashed upon me a guilt trip of biblical proportions, which has taken me days to recover from and get my true feelings back in order. So I responded to her by making it clear it was over, that I am sorry she is taking it so hard, and had thoughts about ending the conversation, but I didn't. She then said she wishes we never kissed and were just friends, and she misses my friendship and talking with me. I don't fully buy this as she warned me that she would try to sneak her way back into a relationship with me, which is why when I broke up with her she said we could not even be friends.
This is actually one of the reasons I broke up with her, she's too insecure and needy. I don't want to break her heart again and she has a way of making me double think my decisions with her. So what did I do? When she called I said let's just agree to be friends, and took the conversation away from our relationship and onto something else which stopped the tears. All the while I am wondering if this was the right approach to take, but there was no turning back. I am going overseas next week for 3 weeks during Christmas, so my plan is to not contact her or be contactable by her while I am overseas, then to assess the situation when I come back and see if she's moved on emotionally. If she has, well I am happy to be friends with her like I am with my other ex... exchanging the occasional, well-spaced, correspondence. But what if she hasn't?
Could any one here give me advice on how to deal with her if when I come back she still misses me and is crying? Or if she tries to push the issue before I leave?