Hi everyone, I'm new here and just kind of wanted to get some feedback on a somewhat uneasy situation I am in. I was really impressed reading around the forums here. Everyone is free to be really open and honest. I like, I like.
I am currently single and have been for about a year now after ending a long and arduous 3 year relationship. Recently, I've started to get back in the mood to date and I realized I'd forgotten how many women there are out there! I've gone out with a few girls here and there but nothing serious.
About a month ago, I met up with an ex-girlfriend of mine whom I dated right before the girl I had the long 3 year relationship with. Her and I were always great together and it was without doubt my "healthiest" relationship ever. However, I had to move out of town for grad school and our attempts at working on a long distance relationship failed. I then met my most recent girlfriend at school (the 3 yr relationship one) and we hit it off and I pretty much forgot about her.
Now, I'm back in my hometown and I see her quite often. She is currently in a relationship with a decent enough guy. But, I know her well and approached her about how she felt when I sensed something was off. The summary of what she said is that she's happy-ish but somethings missing. He's just not her type of guy.
Over the past month since we first met up again, I am almost ashamed to say that I think I may have fallen in love with her all over again. I just don't know how I should act on these emotions. On the one hand, I hate the thought of being a sleezebag and trying to break her and her current boyfriend apart. But on the other hand, I know how much better we are together and how much happier I can make her. When we are together, I know she can sense it too. We talk often about our past together and she has said to me that she was heartbroken when I started dating my last girlfriend.
I'm not in doubt about our feelings for each other. I know she still has some of them for me, even though she hasn't said so. We just know each other that well. It's kinda lame but I can see it in the way she looks at me.
Sorry for rambling, I'll cut it off here and simplify.
So, should I be pursuing this possible "love of my life / soul-mate" scenario even though she is involved with someone else? If so, how?
Or, should I just wait it out and see what happens -- taking the chance that I wait too long and she settles down with the guy she's with? Maybe she wants me to approach her about it?
I should point out that we're both in our mid to late 20's. We both want children. We both would like to get married at some point in life. These things worry me as I may be on a time limit here.