Please help me figure out what he wants - if anything

[emily2705]

I started tutoring Spencer around six months ago (we are both late twenties, employed, he just wanted to brush up on his French). I was recommended by a mutual friend and we've been going strong ever since. We instantly clicked but I had just gone through a bad break up so I knew that at least part of my infatuation with Spencer came from my need to fill the empty space my ex had left. However, with time, I figured out I really liked Spencer. He is cute, but super geeky, awkward and if I am being honest, I feel he hasn't had a lot of experience with girls. I get him - we're quite alike, I like the awkwardness and the geekiness, he makes me laugh and I feel relaxed around him.

Spencer has never really made a move on me apart from putting his hand on my leg a few times, or his arm on my shoulder. Recently he's been starting to say some strange things. First, I asked him to make a sentence with an adjective in French and he starts the sentence with "beautiful (insert my name))." Then he asked me if I was ready for a new boyfriend and if I liked when the guys make the first move. When I asked him about his love life, he told me he's tired of everyone around him asking him why he doesn't have a girlfriend but he's also worried he's focusing solely on his job. When i asked him if he wanted a relationship, he said no, then yes (I didn't ask him for a relationship with me - just to make it clear). He also asked me not to ask too many questions about his love life, that it's too complicated. But he keeps asking me about mine.

The other day he told me he didn't want me to find a boyfriend because then I would stop hanging out with him. I proceeded to invite him for a two day trip (since he said he had some annual leave days to spend), and he's been weird ever since, dodging my answers, ignoring my messages, telling me we'll see each other next week (when we see each other almost every other day). Mind you, I never showed Spencer I liked him, i invited him as a friend because I thought he wanted me to suggest something, it is an organised trip so I am going regardless of him going or not. Every time we would go for a walk he would ask me to stay longer, he would walk me to the bus stop or to the bakery in the rain.

And now I feel he's pulling away. Or is he? Is there anything there? I am confused. Thank you.

[pcmaster]

Maybe better ask him whats going on in his dirty little mind.

But I think he wasnt ready for you to show interest in him this way - inviting to the trip. Think he clearly took it as a romantic interest.
Looks like you should take it slow cause guy is going crazy already.

[Hooo!]

Just kiss him