Hey everyone, I need some advice about how to proceed with a girl. To give you some background, I've known her for over 8 years now. During that time she's been in a relationship as have I. She's somewhat shy and has been in a relationship with her high school sweetheart, but I feel she's grown apart.
It seems we've developed feelings for each other. Whenever we hang out, she is so flirty and smiley with me. We always get along so well and respect each other. It's usually very easy for me to tell when someone likes me, but her actions are confusing to me, which tell me to back off. I understand my feelings might be clouding my judgment which is why I'm turning to you guys to help me see what I should do.
Without going into too much detail, she has given me so many signs over that past 8 years that she is attracted to me. When I Google "signs a girl likes you," she is pretty much every single one, and some in spades, which goes along with just how I feel too. She must know my attraction for her as well, as it's hard for me to hide my feelings, and she is very smart. We've done this so much that I can't doubt it. Take my word for it. I'm just confused because thay as far as she will pursue it. She never contacts me to just say hi or for anything for that matter. It's always me doing the contacting. Just to say hi or ask her a question, etc. We've had so many opportunities to hang out alone, and she rejects ever single one, resigned to hang out only when it's a group setting.
So my question: Why is it so obvious that she likes me, and blatantly shows she does when we hang out, yet won't pursue it beyond just group settings? I've backed away before to clear my head, and even tried ignoring her, but she always comes back. Have you guys seen this before? She's not a player in fact she's very down to earth. Trust me on that. On the contrary she's a very sweet old fashioned girl. She's also a rule follower so maybe she's just drawn some lines she won't cross, but then why all the other signals? I'm just confused how she can be so attracted to me and I to her, and willing to show it on every level but only up to a certain point, and then backs off everytime? I think it would really help me to let go if I need to, if she could stop being so intriguing to me.
So, girls out there with all your wisdom, help me understand and break the mistique. Do you know why she's possibly acting the way she is? Have you seen it before? Again, I don't think she's a player,so beyond that, I WILL listen to you if you have advice, so be nice Thanks in advance.