Why am i so jealous

[ShyAF]

The girl who i like,gets many new friends and im getting little jealous.She doesn't know i like her but im thinking sometimes like "She gonna find someone and then im ****ed".We hugged a lot,but when we are chatting,sometimes she suddenly goes offline.I either think she just fell asleep or just talks with someone.I mean i want her only for me but in the same time dont want,uhh--ill try to explain it better.Im giving her space,im not spamming or making nonstop calls.If she wants to talk with someone else right now im alright but still little bit jealous.She also shares with me everything but i still think im just one of her regular friends...

[Snow White]

I'm not sure what you are asking. It doesn't make much sense to be jealous of her relationships if the two of you aren't in one. It sounds like you may be in the "friend zone" and the only way to change things would be for you to take the chance and tell her how you feel. This isn't an easy thing to do and takes a lot of bravery but, you can either continue to live and accept the way things are now or take charge. You just have to be willing to accept what she gives you as an answer.

[ShyAF]

But she isnt from the same city as me and its kinda hard for us both 0,0

[GLYC]

Well if the distance is an issue. Then she's unavailable. Who cares if she's talking to other men, its irrelevant.
She isnt going to wait around, and neither should you.
You're basically just telling us about an insecurity of yours, which is up to you to combat.

I wouldnt even bother continuing to message her continuously. That's guaranteed friend zone.

Just wait until a future moment makes dating more relevant and realistic for the two of you, then be direct and ask her out.

[ShyAF]

the distance isn't an issue/its about 15 minute traveling

[CantMoveOn]

How old are you both? Still young, like in mid to late teens? Older?

Why can't you express that you LIKE her more than a friend?

[ShyAF]

She has a lot of cooler friends than me,we are both 16 yrs old.Im just shy cuz if i look at her other friends im nothing lol

[GLYC]

Well, you have no confidence. That's your problem, you need to believe in yourself. If you can't even believe in yourself, why would anyone else believe in you?
What's wrong with the way you are? If there's something wrong, fix it. Become the man you want to be.
16? Maybe you can start working out.

Your friends aren't traditionally cool? So what.
If your friends arent exactly go getters or people that chase goals, you can make more friends and retain your old friends, that's what good men do. Be kind to everyone.
I still chat up old buddies here and there that I've lost touch with, I meet new people and still stay in contact with my old friends.

[ShyAF]

Sorry for the late reply :/
Well,im trying to change,usually im all the time on my phone or computer.I havent touched them for 10 days,probably will start to work out soon too.If i get rejected by her,at least she was some motivation to start improving myself.

[Weston71]

Friend Zone??!!!

Try this here:

https://youtu.be/0rSb_QD08vw

now get out of the FZ..

[Snow White]

16...that is such a tough age. I don't think it's a matter of YOU having to change. If you are hugging and she is chatty with you, it seems she likes you just fine, but maybe not in the way you would like her to. That is always so difficult for so many people.

I stand by my first post and wish you the best. Do not take it personally if she doesn't share your feelings.

[ShyAF]

Well,im that kinda guy who really doesn't care what others think of him.For me its not that hard to tell my feelings,but still im little scared.

[Slumpy]

So let's review some admissions from Peter himself about his mistreatment of female social workers, shall we?

"Anyway, in more recent years, I lost two females due to accidentally crossing the thin line between a client and care worker. One was a Latino woman, from Spain. She was my 'key worker' and at first. she was really nice and had a good smile, nice personality and etc. They took the first lady off my team, for asking her on a date, then lied after promising me more shifts. This was after I was being used by the girlfriend I eventually found after nearly 7 years. So anyhow, they did give me one shift with her again but then started to lie and because I suspected this, I talked about her on Facebook once and they banned me from working with her."
Source: dealingwithdepression[DOT]co.uk/showthread.php?10472-My-heart-has-been-crushed-by-my-caregivers

So basically he asked out a professional care worker on a date inappropriately then started talking about her on social media, most likely berating her for turning him down even though she was only supposed to be there for him in a professional capacity. Just one quick example of Peter crossing the line with the opposite gender. Let's take a look at a few more gems.

"Around the same time period in late 2013, I had a crush on my key worker and then I leaked this out to a male worker I trusted. Well she was told this behind my back and then gave me a telling off one day once I slipped up, but before that she played games with me by saying she was moving to South America then later denied saying that."

You can see Peter's attention to focus on strange details here, talking more about being lied to about some small comment than the fact that he once again crossed the line with a female social worker, even going as far as revealing this to one of her coworkers who clearly reported it because of ethical concerns. Meanwhile, Peter is here believing he's been wronged and lied to even though he has a pattern of doing this to women, to the point where he was jailed and these companies won't send women to work with him any more at all.

"Months later, I went to jail for the first time in my life to be remanded before a court hearing after I contacted the women saying nasty things after at first being arrested for going nuts, after my ex key worker stood me up in front of others last July, and then I stalked one of the other women near her house in order to try to say sorry."

Hmm, the pattern and story is starting to emerge here.

"A few nights later, I was having a lunatic meltdown of sorts and contacted Joanna through her Facebook profile, telling her I wanted to have sex with a model from England. She said she would call the police, so I freaked out and went to her home, or rather, I went to hang around in her area. I told her a while back I got her address on 192.com and like Sara, she turned against me after having been sort of okay towards me for a long time. Since I emailed people my plan and I sounded suicidal, they got the police. Officers found me in the Granton area of Edinburgh just yards from her flat. They pretended to help me, then detained me for an interview, but later arrested me for stalking. I was bailed in court the next day, but then sent Sara similar messages and also made racist comments. I wound up arrested and remanded in prison for 2 weeks from 29 July up to 12 August. I was held in Saughton, in Edinburgh."
Source: wrongplanet[DOT]net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=268075

Wow! Some more admitted examples of this lunatic's way of thinking towards women. Remove this poster immediately so we can stop all of this.

"Just to clear up some stuff - I did not assault Joanna or Sara. That day I broke the bottle, I hit another support worker who was with Sara in the street and she made Sara leave. I took that as interfering, plus my mindset at the time was pure anger.

I really doubt I could carry on my support with that company as they all got some nasty emails and while they never responded, they probably think I was abusive. The reason I never gave up my flat sooner is because I know it would be 100% goodbye and I cannot stand people I care about being extracted from my life. Plus, flats like that are not easy to get into. The attraction nowadays is those female support workers.

I just wanted my life back, with all the support workers I love and miss back in place. It is different if they one day leave and nobody could stop them deciding this, but I live in fear of that because I just wanted to make things right in case I never get the opportunity to show it was all a misunderstanding that could have been talked through. Maybe if I had never confessed to anyone I had feelings for Sara or Joanna, then they may not have known as I would have done my best to ensure my feelings would never shine through and I could have kept them bottled up, as it would have been a smart and professional thing to do instead of blurting out how I felt which was relationship suicide for us. I feel I have a big mouth and who is the one left being the fool when the smoke has cleared? Not those women, the other workers or the man who blabbed, but me!"
Source: talkaboutmarriage[DOT]com/physical-mental-health-issues/232706-i-cannot-get-over-losing-my-support-workers-should-i-move-out-my-flat-4.html

Well, there you have it. He even broke a bottle out of anger when dealing with this issue. A strong, self-admitted outline of Peter's abusivebehavior toward women. He still believes he never wronged these women and that he's been mistreated by social workers, a judge, and everyone who's tried to intervene to help him in a professional capacity. We need him removed from advice forums like this so he can focus on his own mental health. This man should not be here giving love advice to anybody. I believe we have made our case here very clearly.

Remove Peter A (aka My Coffee Cup), the stalker and woman-abuser, so we can all carry on and hopefully he can get some help. He has refused to voluntarily stay off of the forum even after a ban. Time's up or relentless spamming shall ensue once more!