Hi Ladies,
Having a bit of a challenging time at the moment, and wanted some female advice and point of view please.
It's a bit lengthy so bear with me...
I have been with my partner for just over a year. She has talked about her ex extensively and we still continue to discuss him and a lot of incidences and attitudes of his while they were together. The overview is that although there were good times, he was a difficult partner, who verbally tortured her a lot for things she did, didn't do, said and didn't say and the way she interacted with people.
She occasionally she's him at a weekly event she goes to, and doesn't want a close friendship with him but is happy to say hi, and occasionally chat on the phone if he initiates it, but tells me she doesn't initiate contact with him. Which I trust and believe.
She saw him this week at the event and said that he seemed troubled. She said that he contacted her afterwards to explain and has had bad news and isn't doing well. She explained she is worried he is reaching out to her, as he was wearing a matching necklace that he had made for them both. When she described the necklace, I knew which one it was as she was wearing it often for about the first six months of our relationship.
Here's the thing....
1. I didn't know the necklace was from him, as when I first saw it and commented on it, she said a friend had given her an element of the piece and she had gone and had it made into a necklace.
2. It's not just a piece of jewelry from the ex, they are matching pieces.
3. We've had sex while she was wearing it (at the time I had no idea of the details I know now)
4. I'm confident if I was wearing a piece of jewelry from an ex, she would be quite hurt, offended and take it as a sign of disrespect to her.
I'm having difficulty with this.
I would love some women's insight on what I have written.
Thanks,
- S