Not sure what to do anymore, confused

[abedele]

So here's the story: A year ago during the summer I met a guy from my hometown, we hung out mostly at his or my home, fooled around. Suddenly he became really flaky and cold, then we stopped contacting each other. (Maybe I was being too clingy) I moved away to another city, and he suddenly wanted to see me when he came to the same city to visit his friends. But he was too flaky and I ended up ditching him. In december, I contacted him cause I went back to my hometown during the christmas. We decided to meet, but the day we were going to see each other he stopped answering. And we didnt have contact for about 6 months until the summer, he started liking my old profile pics on facebook from nowhere, and then he contacted me. We met when I got back to my hometown for summer break, hung out like usually, but this time it felt different. We messaged each other almost everyday, unlike last summer when we only messaged each other when we wanted to meet. It felt like we built a connection, I even met two of his friends. When the summer break ended I had to go back to the place where I study, and we stopped contacting each other. I tried sending him some snaps but got no response. Went back to hometown to visit my family and also him. I kind of told him that I didnt see any point in meeting anymore 'cause the whole thing felt pointless plus I live in another city. He commented that he never really thought about it but it works out for him cause he works and study a lot during his free time. At the same time he hinted that he would like to stay single. This was in September. Before we said our goodbyes we held onto each other tightly and kissed goodbye for so long like we didnt want to separate, it confused me and it felt like something more than a regular fwb relationship. I told him I would be back in October, and he said to contact him then. After that we did nt have any contact at all.

Now I'm back in my hometown again, contemplating if I should contact him like he said. But at the same time we havent had any contact at all for a month, and I put up a snap on mystory that I was in town so if he really was interested he should have contacted me? Also it kinda feels pointless because I wont be getting anything out of it since he hinted he wanted to be single and I live in another city so all odds are against us, I feel like I would only fall deeper for him since I already have some kind of feelings for him. But at the same time I miss him and really want to see him.

I dont know what to do anymore, its been back and forth for a year. I'm so afraid of getting rejection and not be able to see him anymore or losing him to someone else. So yeah, any inputs or advice?

[richiro]

this is just an fwb for him.

it is up for you to decide if you want to keep participating in that with him or not.
this will not "bloom" into a relationship.. sorry.

you are his in-between girl when he has nothing else. there's nothing wrong with that if both of you are in the mentality it's just an fwb - and there is nothign wrong with fwb's. most fwb's i know of (where each side treats it as a fwb) are better relatinships and last longer and are much more productive/positive than FULL-on relationships i see these days. but again.. ONLY if both sides are on the same page and treat it as an fwb only.

Choice is yours.. good luck.

[Hooo!]

I agree with this judgement