I’ve been dating a girl for just about 1 and a half years. For the first year, it has been incredibly rewarding and enjoyable to be with her. I have enjoyed spending time with her and dating her. Despite living 100 km away from one another in different cities, we would regularly alternate visiting each other (even though she went to uni in my city). We go on amazing adventures and dates together and we both buy amazing gifts for each other. We talk regularly on the phone and spend hours chatting about life and our days. She’s my best friend and we discuss everything, including issues in the relationship.
There have been minor sexual issues throughout this first year; she’s failed to orgasm despite numerous attempts and comunication and she has less of a sex drive than me. Despite this, for the first year, she would still enjoy sex and was usually keen to do it.
Recently, we have both noticed a behavioural change in her affecting our relationship. One of the first issues I noticed was a complete shutdown in her sex drive. Showing her my body, especially my chest, used to turn her on, but no has no effect. Touching her nipples or her private parts used to instantly turn her on, now she is always ticklish there, and seems annoyed when I do touch it (I’ve called her out for lying about this once). She knows how much I love sex and does do it with me, but remains silent during it and will sometimes ask how close I am to finishing. In general she doesn’t seem to like being touched unless it’s completely innocent or a back massage, and would never touch or grope me in a sexual manner. I’ve talked to her about this and encouraged her to tell me she doesn’t find me attractive but she insists she finds me attractive.
Furthermore, I’ve noticed she has started to treat me differently. When I do ring her, she’s always tired and complaining about her casual job and uni. She never does visit me when she’s at uni in my city, and recently all of our visits have been at her house. I don’t want to push her by making her come to my house (which is in the city she goes to uni too) meaning I’m regularly travelling 100 km to see her despite her visiting my city and rarely seeing me.
To make matters more complicated, in the middle of next year I’m going overseas for a year, which we both intend to stay together for.
I really don’t want to leave this girl, she’s my best friend. Is there a way I can repair this? Is there something I might be doing?