my bf and i took a so called " break" now we are dating each other casually with no talk of getting back together. at first i thought be able to see him a little bit was better than not being able to see him at all. now i'm not to sure. i want to ask him where things are headed but i'm scared he will break up with me and i will never see him again. should i have the talk?
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27-10-05, 03:24 AM #1
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is it stupid to casually date the person that dumped me?
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27-10-05, 03:32 AM #2
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Well who's decicion was it to break and then date casually? I take it, it was his?? How long have you guys been together? I would think if he made the decision to date casually and depending on why you guys took a break in the first place, he may be confused as to what he wants. I would talk to him but Iw ouldn't ask him where it's heading.. I would ask him how he feels and what he expects out what you guys have? That way you know what he is looking for and if it's not what you want then I would figure out if all this is worth the dating in the first place.
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27-10-05, 03:42 AM #3
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I think that it is stupid to date your ex if you have hope that the two of you will get into a relationship again.
I dumped an ex for stealing from me. I had never cheated on this girl...and I did feel that she had "used" me. After I dumped her, I continued to see her for play, while I was on the prowl for someone better. In her mind, she thought that we were getting back together.
In my mind it was perfectly justifiable: She used me for 4 months for cash and weed. I used her for sex for 2 months. Then left her altogether for a good girl.
Nice how we treat eachother..eh?Last edited by carpflounder; 27-10-05 at 03:44 AM.
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27-10-05, 03:46 AM #4
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yeah real nice there carp. we broke up mutually? he use to drive 6 hours to see me. so if it was just for sex then he must be pretty hard up.
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27-10-05, 05:14 AM #5
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In the title of this thread you state that he dumped you. Now your saying that you broke up mutually.
Originally Posted by chelsee
You said that he "used to" drive six hours to see you. This implies that he is no longer making that outrageous commute. Are you to still seeing eachother at all?
Theres nothing "casual" about driving six hours to **** someone.
Have you been hanging out with LeahSueDolton?
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27-10-05, 10:17 AM #6
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From what I've seen and experienced, 'casual' means "I'm keeping my options open indefinitely because you aren't really what I want, but you'll do until something better comes up."
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27-10-05, 10:22 AM #7
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lol Nice! Originally Posted by carpflounder
I agree with Bluesummer.
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27-10-05, 11:22 AM #8
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What's your gut feeling?
I'd ignore the heart and the head... and listen to the gut.
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28-10-05, 04:15 AM #9
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he initiated the break. only beccause i think he heard me telling a friend that i was going to break up with him. he asked for a break because he thought we both needed one. after the break i gor my own place, i can't get out of the lease so he drives up to see me. at first there was alot of talk of getting back together. he said he felt bad that i left, blah, blah blah.
i don't know what the **** to think, how can i tell?????
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28-10-05, 08:15 PM #10
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Never feel scared confirming your situation with your partner. If he dumps you just for mentioning it, then he's going to dump you sooner or later for one thing or the other (It's just a matter of time). Originally Posted by chelsee
Why do you need this bum anyway? Do you need him to be happy? If yes, I think you should go single for awhile to find a way to make yourself happy without anyone's help. You don't need a partner to feel happy, you need a partner who compliments you and who makes you belong...
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28-10-05, 10:17 PM #11
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I agree - I would talk to him. There's no sense in you just sitting around wondering. All that will do is create anxiety and insecurity - which he will notice, and may take wrong. Communication is always best.
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30-10-05, 06:47 PM #12
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yes. sorry but Yesis it stupid to casually date the person that dumped me?
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