Training in the military. Tips for my online relationship?

[charley14]

Hi guys, I’m currently in my mid 20’s and I’ve signed up to train in the military for a couple of months. The only concern I have is my online relationship with my girlfriend abroad. I met her through LoveMe, which is an international dating site I was introduced by my friend about a year ago.

It has always been a plan of mine to join the forces and dedicate myself to serving my country while I’m still young and able. Before I got into a relationship with my girl, my main priority in life was my career. That all changed when I met my girlfriend.

She’s wonderful and has an amazing personality, not to mention, she’s very supportive of my aspirations. While I’ll be away, I won’t be able to communicate with her at all during my months of training. This worries me because I don’t want to lose her and I’m afraid she’ll outgrow our relationship due to the lack of communication.

I badly need some insights and advice about my situation. I’m losing my mind with all the random thoughts that go through my head. I’ve already discussed with my gf about my anxiety on leaving her alone for a few months and she’s nothing but supportive. She keeps telling me not to worry and that she’ll wait for me no matter what.

But I still can’t help but doubt how things will be in time. Are there any scenarios I need to consider? Should I be worrying over this or is it all in my head? My heart trusts in my girlfriend that she’ll be alright but my head just won’t stay quiet on the matter. Guys, I need your help! Tips, advice and suggestions will be awesome! Thanks a ton in advance for your response!

[Merv]

I think you need to FaceTime or video call daily to keep the romance going

[Mr Married]

I work overseas half my life....home 28 days...gone 28 days. My wife and I have been together 26 years. Here are some good tips that work for us:

1. What's App: wifi is all you need to voice or video call .....and it has end to end encryption (which helps for other reasons I will get too)
2. Buy the book "Love Languages"...and read it. If you know each others love language you can communicate in a way that gives each partner more of what they need
3. Use the time apart to set up dates with each other when you get back...it gives you plenty time to come up with some good ideas and helps keep the romance going
4. Send each other something in the mail when your lonely...having a personnel item from her/him helps
5. Sex .... I don't know how else to put it...men are visual creatures...they like to see their women...see if she is comfortable with what's app video...my wife took a little time but comfortable now
6. Take care of it "yourself" as needed ...