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    What has she been thinking this whole time?

    This is about a girl i would see around school last year. I wanted to talk to her, but i had no balls and didn't actually know how to talk to a girl i was crushing on back then.

    So all that i would do is look at her in the hallways and stuff. she caught on cause she started reversing it, being the one who would stare at me and all that. I asked her out one day. It came out of nowhere, and I was awkward about it. We had never even talked before. She told me she has a boyfriend (i found out later this was a lie) and thats how we left off.

    The weird thing was, after I asked her, I would see her staring at me all the time.

    I guess i think maybe she panicked or was shy and just fell back to the boyfriend excuse. Tbh, i was weird about it and came on way too strong. Fast forward to this year I moved on and liked someone else for a while, but it isn't going to work out with her. I think enough time has passed to give it another shot with this girl.

    We had talked once or twice ina group setting theoughout the year, and now i talk to her after school every few days cause we do track togeher. Were pretty much roght at the point where were starting to become friends.

    Every now and then I still see her sneaking a look at me or something. Im a good looking, popular senior guy. she's a beautiful, popular sophmore girl. Were pretty alike. We both really enjoy art and drawing and we both run track & have the same fun personality . I was going to just approach her one day, make some joke about how she probably thought i was crazy, tell her I want to "start over" and get to know her. Hopefully get her number or Snapchat I have really improved myself as a guy since last year (more popular, more fun, dress nicer, actually able to talk to girls now) and i want to give this another shot.

    I see her every day after school cause we do track together and our paths will sometimes cross. I made a joke to one of her friends the other day and i caught her smiling, i still see her lookig my way a good amount.

    The only time weve talked so far recently was earlier, when the ball we were kicking around missed me and landed next to her. She looked at me and went to pass it back but conpletely missed so i made a joke about it and she smiled at me (i think she might have been blushing as well)

    The next day i came over to her and her friends and joked about it. They were all smiling and laughing about it. We were talking about how I was going on vacation next week so i was going to miss a couple days, and she looked me in the eyes and asked how long i was staying.

    When im talkig with her friends she tries to move close or tries to join the conversation. Sometimes she waits for ke to talk to her, but she never seeks to talk to me while were alone.

    Maybe were not friends enough yet or maybe shes just shy. Maybe she doesnt know what to think because shes as confused as i am. Idk whats going on in her head.

    Now i realize these are small signs to start with and either way i need to build up a friendship this time first but im unsure about a few things. Should i mention last year at all (even just as a joke)? Should i let her know i still have feelings for her? How do i show her that im interested without telling her straight up and possibly losing any interest she had?

    Is it better to beat around the bush and start talking to her again, and become friends with her, then let her know. Or should i just talk about how i didnt know how to talk to a girl i like last year, and I watn to start over, start getting to know each other, and see where things go.

    My friend gave me her Snapchat, so should i just add her by username and strike up a conversation to see how interested she may be?

    Also is it normal for a girl to just panic and go back to the boyfriend excuse, especially cause she was only like 15 last year and she didnt know me at all, even if she thought i was attractive.

    So whats the right move to make with her. I really like her and i need to make a move somehow, so whats the best way to talk to her about this. It seems to me like she clearly enjoys talking to me and she might just want me to talk to her more so i think i have a chance here.

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    In real life the direct approach is best. In High School, beating around the bush & being friendly first is required. This young girl needs to know she can trust you. Talk to her. Smile. Offer to run with her or ask about some art project she's doing. Then work up to asking her to hang out.

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    Sorry I came off so weird before. But truth be told in a little crushing on you :-)
    So I just wanted to create an opportunity where we can get to know each other a little better

    She will then give you a shit test, such as: Oh you do?
    Or
    I have a boyfriend or whatever

    Shit tests are like a botch or slut shield. They feel it’s not appropriate for them to be ok with a direct approach like this

    However if you keep sincere in mind that you want to get to know her better then you can act out of that.
    For example by responding.

    Yes I do. And guess what: I have several boyfriends too... :-) so, anyways i wanted to do xx on Friday and I’d really like it if you came along

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    I also want to add: what she I thinking doesn’t matter

    You want to seduce her
    So that is what you will do unless you get a clear No.

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