So I met my match... the guy is now being distant after amo tu... normally I would give up but he keeping me at bay by saying he wants me but now it’s complicated. He has baggage which I’m willing to support. I don’t want to give up on him but I am a great believer in looking after number one.why this sudden change in behaviour from him? Is it a defence mechanism? Why is he keeping distant? Is it a defense mechanism?