Why does this always happen to me

[Junsui]

lol I bet they are the same person.

[whaywardj]

Well, at least add Tone into the mix...

Got moobs?

[Tone]

Sigh

Just shows once again how spoiled-brat-like our generation really is...

Any little twist from the regular daily routine or wind from the past and people are not longer sure in themselves and their abillities, become all confused and don't know what to do like little kids, not to mention dragging their partners with them. Whatever happened to one love? Confidence in personal feelings and abillties against all externalities? Confidence in yourself that you have made the right choice and that you are sticking by it?

Come on now.

Again - you're telling me if you were in her similair shoes... after all that you had to deal with... being in a 3-month relationship - that if your ex of 3 years came around and was talkin about gettin back together you're THAT arrogant to believe you wouldn't even flinch? You're THAT in control of your own emotions?

However, my approach would still be to talk to her. And straight up and ask her if you should be expecting this kind of incosideration in the future... (Instead of waiting for that future to happen with the mere thought always gnawing at your mind). Give yourself a relief of hearing it from the horse's mouth. I.e. Either she will never do this again, so you have a piece of mind that at least she promised you and gave you that or she is still confused in which case you should start thinking...

Come on now. Allow the girl to be HUMAN. She's not a robot that can just program her emotions and feelings and let him know "Well if my neighbor comes around on Valentines Day, considerin the amount of hydrochlorin I consumed throughout the day it would cause my ryboflorins to flare up and make me more emotional, thus more susceptible to his attempts to court me. Other than that - we should be good!

The whole point of being human is we are emotional. And again, I think it's just extremely arrogant and you're probably in for a huge suprise if you think you can go through life in complete control of your FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. You never know what might happen tomorrow. That's the risk you take when you put yourself out there and allow another to call you theirs.

[Junsui]

You're right, Tone. You can't control your feelings, at least not very well.

[MastaPDiddy]

I definitly don't think you can control your emotions. And I agree that when you fall in love, and that is a decision you make because you can still not open yourself to someone else, you risk getting cut open. The moment you open up to someone, you risk getting betrayed.

This begs the question:

Bottle up your emotions, dont fall in love and never get hurt?


---or----

Open up to someone, fall in love, and risk being more hurt than you can imagine?



I'll take option two, the feeling of being in love is one of the biggest highs of human emotions.

[Junsui]

Number 1 is kind of appealing though.

[Rosebud]

To never fall in Love Junsui! I know it sucks when you get hurt but it's the only way you can truly fall in love with someone..if you don't give it your all how will you ever know the true feeling of love?

And I know you were just being sassy!!! LOL miss sassy pants!

[Junsui]

lol I remember in high school, one of my theology teachers told me to stop sassing him!

[Rosebud]

LOL.... I can see that!!

[Tone]

I'll go with Option 2 every day of the week.

[Mish]

Come on now.

Again - you're telling me if you were in her similair shoes... after all that you had to deal with... being in a 3-month relationship - that if your ex of 3 years came around and was talkin about gettin back together you're THAT arrogant to believe you wouldn't even flinch? You're THAT in control of your own emotions?

I keep the past IN the past where it belongs. And I keep my priorities straight. I can understand and appreciate the fact that she went through many problems, but that needs not involve her having second thoughts about her relationship... Ofcourse we don't know her side of the story, but from what I am getting here the two things are not interellated. If she was that in love with the guy that she was thinking about marriage all these problems should have drawn them closer together (Not apart) as she looked for emotional support to deal with them...

Come on now. Allow the girl to be HUMAN. She's not a robot that can just program her emotions and feelings and let him know "Well if my neighbor comes around on Valentines Day, considerin the amount of hydrochlorin I consumed throughout the day it would cause my ryboflorins to flare up and make me more emotional, thus more susceptible to his attempts to court me. Other than that - we should be good!

The whole point of being human is we are emotional. And again, I think it's just extremely arrogant and you're probably in for a huge suprise if you think you can go through life in complete control of your FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. You never know what might happen tomorrow. That's the risk you take when you put yourself out there and allow another to call you theirs.

This is not about being in complete control of your emotions, but being certain about what you want and where you are heading in life. You can talk to your exs from time and its natural for some feelings to be there, but to go to the point where you become confused? That you suddenly forget why that "perfect" relationship ended when you ARE in a relationship with another person?

I guess, I am reffering to the other side of the coin here. I know people who thrive on these "Confusions" and use them as an excuse to cheat, not make up their mind, affairs and indescretions. I am not saying this particular case is serious, but for our guy here to keep his senses sharp that something like this can be very reoccuring...

[Junsui]

Nicely put Mish. I agree with what you said there.

[Rosebud]

I keep the past IN the past where it belongs. And I keep my priorities straight. I can understand and appreciate the fact that she went through many problems, but that needs not involve her having second thoughts about her relationship... Ofcourse we don't know her side of the story, but from what I am getting here the two things are not interellated. If she was that in love with the guy that she was thinking about marriage all these problems should have drawn them closer together (Not apart) as she looked for emotional support to deal with them...



This is not about being in complete control of your emotions, but being certain about what you want and where you are heading in life. You can talk to your exs from time and its natural for some feelings to be there, but to go to the point where you become confused? That you suddenly forget why that "perfect" relationship ended when you ARE in a relationship with another person?

I guess, I am reffering to the other side of the coin here. I know people who thrive on these "Confusions" and use them as an excuse to cheat, not make up their mind, affairs and indescretions. I am not saying this particular case is serious, but for our guy here to keep his senses sharp that something like this can be very reoccuring...

I see that Mish... But all in all no matter how much they talked about arriage and what not the fact is they have been together for 3 months so all the stuff you mentioned above would be irrelevant. Like all of us had said before they were confusing love with infatuation.. so of course with only dating for 3 months if her ex came backa round she would "think" about all that.

[Mish]

Nicely put Mish. I agree with what you said there.

Thank you Junsui

One beautiful princess passified, off to the next one

I see that Mish... But all in all no matter how much they talked about arriage and what not the fact is they have been together for 3 months so all the stuff you mentioned above would be irrelevant.

The stuff i mentioned is NOT irrelevant. It doesn't matter how much time they spent together. What matters is that they are in a relationship and people shouldn't go into relationships if they yet haven't moved on and are still thinking about different scenarios and revisits of the past...

Like all of us had said before they were confusing love with infatuation.. so of course with only dating for 3 months if her ex came backa round she would "think" about all that.

I completely disagree with this sentence! So what, are we going to start putting time limits on what should work for everybody now? It's almost like you are giving a green light for anyone who has been in a relationship less than a certain time frame, that it's okay to be confused, not know what to do, cheat even (Cause you know they are confused, don't know what they are doing, like little kids, not responsible for their actions right?). And how do you know that what they felt was real love or not real love? Are you suggesting that 3 months has never been enough time for anybody to fall in love? I know people who fell in love in much less time than that and are still together, some even married...

[Mish]

I should probably mention right about now, that I am the world's WORST person to argue with and that all of my arguments should not be taken personally (For the risk of me completely exhausting you)