anti affair

[Jade Falcon]

I want to stop all the affairs I'm having. I'm feeling bad for stepping on so much people. .. any pointers on how I can end the affairs and maintain the faithfulness?

First you have to figure yourself out, and what you really want. And having
a few affairs at the same time shows that you really don't know what you
want. Someone is going to get hurt if you continue, and I'd guess its going
to be you.

If you wanted to stop you would have already.

[Late_vamp]

yesterday , i was writing the meanest nastiest post for her , when the power all over my block went out .

basically , stop being a whore before you spread the crabs to everybody .

[Mish]

Why don't you try:

Panties made of steel

I can see that being very helpful

[carpflounder]

When you are ready to stop you will. For now, enjoy it.

[Late_vamp]

hey , you want to stop whoring and all the STD's you probably got . heres a solution .

we all know fire burns the germs ... so your shit is parasite infected MOST probably ... take a torch ... i think you can figure the rest out ... and it will stop you from screwing everything that moves and that has a dick .

[vashti]

a little uncalled for ... maybe a little bit?

Warning: Zealots in the forum!!

[whaywardj]

damn. I know. I dont know why I even posted this.. I know what is wrong and right. I even know what I should do.. just can't suck it in. Am I making sense?

What's so appealing about the affair(s) which causes you to persist despite knowing the damage you're doing?

[Mish]

What's so appealing about the affair(s) which causes you to persist despite knowing the damage you're doing?

Hayward, imagine you are a doctor and you are talking to a patient who is a drug addict

[Only-virgins]

Me again.. Alright, I want to stop all the affairs I'm having. I'm feeling bad for stepping on so much people. It's wrong, yea. I've known it all along just didn't want to believe it. Anyway, I've decided to try to fix things with John. Lately he's been really sweet always asking if I love him and now he's always telling me how much he needs me and how he wants things to work out. I felt sick to my stomach when he apologized for not having time for me and the baby..said he'd try harder. I'm such a byotch.
Anyhoo.. any pointers on how I can end the affairs and maintain the faithfulness?

You are going to tell him right? Unless you tell him it doesn't matter if you stop or not because your lying to him with the first affair all the way till you die until you tell him.

it is that easy.. just tell him about it and you are done. mission complete

I agree. Some how I doubt thats going to happen because she is a stupid biatch. This John deserves to know that he has a child with an idiot.

[carpflounder]

All John deserves is a roof over is head and three hots and a cot.

Your fine Lovestruck, when your ready you will quit..and do not ever tell John unless you want to.

Just my.02

[Rosebud]

All John deserves is a roof over is head and three hots and a cot.

Your fine Lovestruck, when your ready you will quit..and do not ever tell John unless you want to.

Just my.02

BLah... This coming from a cheater!

If she wants to fix her relationship, she needs to tell him. relationships are based on trust and honesty, if your not honest..your not giving yourself to that person in whole.

[lovestruck]

okay.. i expected violent reactions. i didnt come here to brag about my sins. like everyone else i came for opinions and advice for possible solutons. Mishanya, your right. its like i am addicted. and i guess it is the excitment im after. i live a very busy and sad life and it may not seem like it, but i try to do everything thats in favor of my child. to remind you all, i have a 10 month old baby. im 20 years young and i claw my way through everyday trying to support my family. im not saying this to have an excuse for the shit im doing. i know its wrong, im not denying it.
anyway, i know who i am and who im not. i am one who loves her child and family. im also someone who works hard for a clean and honest living.. i don't fuk everything with a dick. its one guy. and a guy i admit im starting to fall for. exactly why i am keeping distant. and john, well, we're trying to work things out. i have been looking for other things to keep focused on. i have been spending more time in the gym and im at work more than im needed. so believe it or noy i am trying to do whats right and not just screw myself and everything alive.

[whaywardj]

Hayward, imagine you are a doctor and you are talking to a patient who is a drug addict

Since I once was a crack addict and alcoholic, it's easier for me to imagine it from that perspective, rather than a doctor's (who only may or not also be an addict or alcoholic). And, no. At base, it's not the same at all. Although, many would like to excuse themselves from it by suggesting it is. Just as many would like to excuse themselves from alcoholism and addiction by calling them diseases. Or, if not excuse themselves, at least soften the stigmata usually attached to the conditions.

[url]http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=154572 3&dopt=Abstract[/url]

[Rosebud]

You didn't answer my question hun. With you knowing all this stuff, what are wanting to do? Work this out with John, or Be with this other guy? One or the other, you ahve to choose to make that choice work and you have to be upfront with both!

[Rosebud]

Since I once was a crack addict and alcoholic, it's easier for me to imagine it from that perspective, rather than a doctor's. And, no. At base, it's not the same at all. Although, many would like to excuse themselves from it by suggesting it is. Just as many would like to excuse themselves from alcoholism and addiction by calling them diseases.

[url]http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=154572 3&dopt=Abstract[/url]

Coming from an addict as well, I agree totally with you!