Cheating

[whaywardj]

The potential for either partner to cheat on the other is always present, in all love relationships, at all times. No amount of promising not to or regretting having once done it ever removes that potential. It can't be made to go away by any means. All lovers can do about it is, on the one hand, chose to act with their partners'interest in mind and, one the other, trust that they will.

That's the whole point of being a love relationship. To grow beyond the narrow confines of self-interest. Whether that self-interest revolves around greed (cheating) or indignation (over having been cheated on and lied to) is irrelevant. Both extremes are expressions of the same self-rightgeousness and have nothing at all to do with loving anyone other than ourselves.

[Tiay]

I think that's a little insensitive, frasbee. If she can't forgive him from her heart, it's no good. Accusing her of having unreasonably expectations will not make her see your point of view.
If you have an opinion, back it up logically, rather than presenting in a way that is insulting to the person, making them very unlikely to listen to you. That achieves nothing!

[Tiay]

The potential for either partner to cheat on the other is always present, in all love relationships, at all times. No amount of promising not to or regretting having once done it ever removes that potential.

so true, so very true.
sorry my comment to Frasbee slipped in after yours! I should've quoted his more clearly.

I'd better get some sleep now -.-

Best Wishes,
-tiay

[Rosebud]

Wait a minute here. This happened about a year ago right? And for whatever reason you decided to ask him fi he ever cheated on you? Hmm, were you thinking he did?

Anyhow, I have to agree with Frasbee on this one as well!