feeling guilty about anything relating to sex

[danmat]

I want to understand what is normal as regards sex (if there is such a thing) as I have been feeling quite a bit of guilt lately whenever I think about sex, as I am not sure what is normal.

1) Is it normal to watch and enjoy porn when single, but to not want to watch it when in a relationship? How easy is it to stop watching porn once in a relationship?

2) Is it normal to fantasize about people who exist in real life? Are there any moral issues with this?

3) How long does it take to have wet dreams after stopping masturbating?

4) How often does the average 21 year old think about sex?

5) What is the difference between checking someone out and perving?

6) Is it normal to want to want to masturbate after seeing something hot, or just when you have a bit of time to kill and want to do something fun?

7) Is it strange to worry about having wet dreams if you don't masturbate, and then using that as one of your reasons for masturbating?

[Tiay]

heh wow..

ok. I'm not the best to answer all of this but here goes anyway.

1) Yes that's normal. Most people wouldn't want to stop watching porn when in a relationship. I have no idea how easy it would be.. depends on a lot of things.

2) Yes. No.. not that I know of.

3) I don't know, I wouldn't be surprised if they just never stopped.

4) 21?.. um. once again I dont' know, probably often.

5) er.. ^.^ I'm going to fail this quiz.. what's perving?

6) yes, yes, yes.

7) heh um.. i'm really the wrong gender for these questions. But I assume that wet dreams can be kind of a nuisance when you have to get up in the morning and get to work right away. So if masturbating stops the dreams, that makes sense. Masturbating isn't a sin!

So.. are you 21, have wet dreams, and lots of guilt? Did you grow up being told that all sexual things are nasty and bad? well.. they're not.
(wow i'm tired I have to sleep and I have sooo much work to do tomorrow. nn)

[danmat]

To correct a misconception, I have never had a wet dream, and don't want to have one, as I am still living at home. The main reason that I want answers to these questions is that my sexuality is about the only part of myself that I am unsure of, reflected in the nature of the questions. When I enter a relationship I want to be sure of myself, so that I can be the best partner I can be and not screw up the relationship.

[danmat]

As a follow up, I was wondering if people could post any thoughts that they had on the appropriate vs the innapropriate use of porn.

[confused01]

As a follow up, I was wondering if people could post any thoughts that they had on the appropriate vs the innapropriate use of porn.

ok i'm a girl and i use to like watching porn before being in a relationship, and right after being in one, i stopped naturaly without having to deal with any issues, i felt it was better practicing than watching!!!
my ex couldn't stop watching right away and it hurt me a lot. i felt at the begginning i wasn't enough for him, or i didn't satisfy him which wasn't the case, i believe he was addicted and he couldn't admit it. after one year i can say, i berly found anything about sex in the pc. but sometimes he'll be lets rent a tape and watch together. of course not a good idea. that's my opinion and people are different. i hope i was able to help here.

[Tiay]

I'd have no qualms about watching porn with my b/f, though we haven't done it yet. I don't mind him watching it either, within reason, of course.
So, it's another one of those things that just depends on the person. It's also one of those things that you can't really ask, like "do like red wine or white? Do you mind if your partner watches porn?" heh.. *aaawkkkward*