she needs a break..

[johnnybravo]

i have a gf that i'm together with for 7 months.
the thing is...we fight a lot and stuff.
so the other day she told me that she needs a little space.
but i love her so much that i was so upset she took a break.
the other day we were talking on the phone and i told her that it was over between us cuz i couldn't wait.
the only reason i said that was because i thought she would stop the break.
but she didn't.
so i called her back saying that i didn't mean it and i love her very much.
so she decided that we break-up for a while so she can take her space.
but she told me that she won't leave me and will come back to me as soon she's ok.
but she never gave me a time frame.
i asked her how long it will take and she told me: " i dont know"
i love her sooo much and i wanna be with her so bad!!
and i hate to admit it but...i'm the kinda needy person.
but time is killing me man!
i try to think about other stuff but i keep thinking about her....

can u girls pls explain me how long u think she needs?

p.s: i posted this in the love advice forums to.i just saw this one now..

[pinkpuca84]

i'd say give her at least 2 weeks for her. i know it's really hard, but if u really love her, then u should wait. i suggest u should text her like once every second day, and once every three days, then once every second day...

so she knows that u still care about her. I myself, as a girl, when i get mad, i secretly wants to be cared, i still wants his attention. and when i dont, i have negative thoughts that he might not like me anymore. and i start getting even more mad, and start losing my feelings. so i strongly advice u should show her that u still there for her, but dont come too strong. just short message like "dont forget to eat", or "hey i found a new song called such and such, i think u should listen to them, they are really nice" stop. dont send her messages that asking her anything, or required any reply, cos she might get "disturbed"

[King Zarathu]

This happened to me before, and I think it's a control issue more than the thought of "but i liek love her soooooo much!!!!!11eleventeen"

Just sit back, relax, do something in your spare time and keep your mind off of her. When she comes back, you have two options:

1) Tell her to go **** herself.
2) Be glad that she is okay and get back with her. Or, you could always choose #1...

[johnnybravo]

lol!zarathu
thx for the advice pinkpuca.
i'm new to this forum and i already love it lol

[johnnybravo]

ok..so now she told me she wants to stay friends while she's taking her breather.
and then she told me we can have sex but it doesn't mean we have to be together.
so i'm seriously confused!
i mean..i didn't say no though but that's just because so i can be with her and stuff.
i asked her if she was in love with somebody else.
she said no.
but i just dont get it!
why would she wants to have sex while she's taking a breather???
and what if she doesn't come back to me?(she said she will)
i'm so lost...

[confused01]

don't you wanna have sex too?

yes it is confusing to understand us girls, just be patient and at the same time kestion yourself do you really love her as much as you think you do? or.....
i'll say give her a month is fair for both of you if she still wants to keep the same situation, i think she is just affraid of committing with you right now. or affraid of her feelings.
let her sort things about but yet we love when guys care about us even though we ask you not to call, it means call me even more and talk to me about things i wanna hear.

but i don't know if this is the case, you have top sit back think and then you'll get it right i guess

[johnnybravo]

i know i love her.
i dont have to think about that.
but now i'm doubting her love for me.
i guess i'm gonna have to wait and see.

[Gigabitch]

can u girls pls explain me how long u think she needs?

A spanking.

[johnnybravo]

i dont think she's ever gonna come back to me.
i told her i'll wait for her as long i know she's coming back.
and then she told me..."i'm not sure..i need more time".
if u love somebody u dont have to think about getting back together.
u just do it!
i guess she doesn't love me..?
man..i hate this ****in crap!
and the worst part is..i just keep thinking about her.
like even when i go to mcdonalds..i think about her(cuz that's where we go together).
it takes 2 to tango...right?
so why the hell isn't she trying to work on our relationship?
i know i broke many promises to her and she won't believe me if i say that i won't overreact anymore.
but i'm so damn serious now and still she doesn't believe me!

[johnnybravo]

ya well i guess that's it.
she keeps ignoring me.
i just can't believe it though.
for 7 months we were together and then she drops everything just like that!
well i definitely had my lesson!

[Lil Ripsta]

Don't give up man! She loves you a lot and I'm sure of that!

You just gotta talk to her about this whole thing. Trust me.

[Zrx]

Don't come on too strong, if she wants space, give her space. Otherwise you will end up pushing her away.

[johnnybravo]

ya, well i hope she makes a decision soon!
cuz she doesn't know how bad i miss her!
well...if she ever comes back that is.
cuz i saw one of her friends today and i asked how come S didn't call me in the past few days?
she told me:" i dont know"
"but from what I've heard u weren't treading her right"
that's what i don't get!??
i always bought her clothes and other stuff!!
ok..we had a lot of fights but that has nothing to do with how i was treading her!!
so how come she's saying that i'm not treading her right??
and one other thing...her friend also told me that everything happens for a reason and it doesn't always mean it's bad.
and she told me that's all she's saying.
so does that mean she will come back to me??
but what if she comes back to me?
should i go in..or tell her that i dont want her anymore?
cuz if i say that i want to get back with her then that makes me desperate and then she knows she's in control.
uuggh man..so many questions!
srry guys...and girls lol
i'm asking to much here...

[nendo]

my opinoin would be don't actualy have sex with her on the break. thats just basicly being used. for me sex would only be in a relationship. and not during some break etc.

having sex with her would make u want her more and more and be harder for u to leave if she breaks up with u

[BlackPetal]

My friend, you are being controlled by her.
If you keep pressuring her, keep telling her that you love her and keep showing your affection to her, I can guarantee you right now she will leave you.

My honest opinion is that you need to pull away from her and give her room.

I've been in that kind of situation before. You feel like you miss her so much and you don't understand why she is doing this to you right? Every minute of your existence now is painful because you don't know what will she decide right? Deep inside, you are afraid of losing her so you are going to keep showing how much you love her right?

I've felt the exact same way before and I can tell you, if you continue to emotionally cling on, she will leave you.

Here's my advice again. Pull away from her for a while. Spend your time on other girls during this break. If you really loves you, she will eventually come back, but if things go wrong and she leaves, at least you are not as attached to her and still have other girls that will care for you in the future.

Remember, at this moment, don't cling on. Don't make pathetic attempts of showing love.